Yeah, I know coaches who have a softball god complex, thus feel not need whatsoever to seek out answers to questions regarding things a hitting or pitching coach is teaching.
I think it's laughable to believe a team coach would actually try to understand what the hitting coach has taught. Or vice versa. My experience is that most coaches don't give a fart what a player's hitting coach is teaching the player. They just assume it's wrong if it's not the hitting style that is taught in the coach's program. One example comes to mind.... A HS coach that says, "You won't be using a stride here." Maybe the hitting coach has the player using a stride for a specific reason to fix a particular problem the player has, like getting the hips involved or getting the lower half activated. No, I don't think this "work together" is all that common. It should be, however!
Had a similar experience when I heard a D1 coach telling players at a clinic (including a few of our players) not to stride; that they could learn the stride later. These were 12U at the time. Not a small D1 either.
No, it's not common. By 'relationship,' I don't necessarily mean that the team coach and hitting coach are corresponding on a regular basis. But as a team coach, if I see a major problem, I'd want to know what is being taught, even if I'm getting it from the player. I might ask the player to ask the hitting coach a question to clarify what's being taught.
This board does that with pitching, saying they can learn the stride later. I think it is detrimental in both situations. People are thinking short term over long term, because kids are in games, and coaches can't have kids lose, with paying customers wanting wins.
Back to the OP: No one needs instruction right before a game, and no one needs more than about 12-15 swings. It is warm up, not practice, not fix every supposed flaw in side toss (which has no bearing on real hitting) 10 seconds before the game. The rest is busy work that messes with your head. I say direct conversation.
...At high speed college D1 pitching, the stride is the 1st thing that must go...
While I agree with your statement, let's keep things in perspective. The vast majority of D1 pitching is not high speed, and most is anything but high speed. The speeds shown on ESPN during the WCWS are not by any means typical.
You would agree that the stride is the first thing that must go? I respect the no-stride school of thought, but I'm not in that camp and am not a fan of travel and high school coaches who would insist on hit. (Naturally, my DD has a stride. )
Not necessarily. The real question is can your DD hit? If the answer is yes than let her stride. People make way too much of the mechanics of hitting without proper regard to the mental and visual skills required. Great mechanics does not make you a hitter, rather it allows you to hit the ball well. I will take a kid that sees the ball well and a great mental approach over a player that has a textbook swing and no skills above the neck.