- Feb 7, 2014
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Anyone 'pull their funding' from their DD when they don't or won't put in the time required to improve?.. by funding I mean instruction or other expenses.
YoungBuck, naturally, I don't know your dd. Please be careful with the "lazy" label. I've found that some players struggle with human nature. Human nature most often dictates that a person take the easy route. That looks like lazy. There are times when people/players are really afraid of what might happen if they are successful. For the parent, there is that sense of being upset or angry or ... when they don't see a player getting after it as they think the player should. Some players will eventually find that button and take off and some won't. Improvement has to be measured on their expectations. You can't determine a player's dreams or your dd's dreams. Instead, you can be honest with your dd, let her know that playing and instruction depends upon a certain criteria and that you support her either way. Good luck!
In addition to "what might happen if they are successful," there's also the kid who is afraid of what might happen if she gives 110% and fails.
I have a player who can be great. And I know she wants to be. But she's the type that has everything come easy (good athlete, good student, etc). She can be pretty good without trying so hard, and if she does fail, it's because she didn't try. But if she tries and fails? Well, that just might be the end of the entire world.
DS did baseball hitting and pitching last year, then at the last minute decided he didn't want to go out for the HS team (after participating in the off-season workouts with them). I made him pay me back some money, enough that he felt it.
.. and also miss my company holiday party.