What a year! This is my first year in a ASA/TB team 12U. I have to say it is the best league around here. I have coached for 6 years in little league and this year the parents have been the worst I have ever had! I brought 5 girls over from Little League that I have coached the 3 years. 2 of them quit mid season due to it being to competitive and parents not understanding what TB was all about. (even after having it in writing how many tournaments the team would play)Have a player #1 that is all over the place and never really has a grasp on where to throw the ball/ not swing at pitches that go above her head or roll on the ground. I have worked and worked with her and she still just doesn't get it. Two other girls that are sisters 1 used to pitch in LL #2 and has lost her drive to pitch and doesn't practice off the field, she cannot get it to the plate from 40'. The older sister is a heck of a player no problems what so ever.
So this weekend we had our last tournament it was a 4gg with pool play on Friday. I was short 4 players going into it as some of my original players where done playing for the team due to previous commitments. So I let the other parents and players know we would be short and if we still wanted to play that I would need to find 4 pick up players. Everyone agreed to get the pick up players. I contacted some other head coaches from other teams and was able to pick up 4 really well rounded players. We had 3 practices and those 4 players where a outstanding addition to my team. Parents where raving about how good it was to see them in practice ect ect.
So at the tournament during pool play I batted my entire lineup 11 players. Had my infield positions great we where hanging in there with very good teams. I had sat out girl #1 that is all over the place but she had batted twice and put her in as a sub. #2 girl that lost interest in pitching was a sub as well. Unfortunatly we lost both games so we went into the loosers bracket. Saturday morning rolls around and right before game time #2 girls mom comes up and just blows her top and want to know why her daughter is not playing in the infield or pitching. I told her now is not the time for that discussion and her daughter got the playing time and not to worry we still have 2 more games left. Game 1 started my girls just where flat footed out there and could not get going. Lost really bad but played a very respectable team that we have played before won against them in league play. Game 2 went with the same defense and changed out pitchers and was doing really well. Then all of a sudden when it was girl #2 at bat she was no where to be found, I looked over and she is sitting with her mom! I told her "hey we need her at bat" mother says "she is done" I was floored! I scramble to get the team back on track after girls are upset over the crazyness. Ended the game and we where out.
After the game I took the team out for our team meeting as we normally do and player #2's mom,#1 mom start walking over to the meeting and I asked them to wait until we are finished and everyone will get together as this was our last game together this year for most of the players. Two players where asked to play on a very good tournament team for another tournament. (1 being my daughter) (Big grin from dad/coach) #2's mom told her other daughter to leave with her and she didn't need to stay for anything. I didn't say a word and let her go. #1's mom pulled me aside when the meeting and goodbye's where over and just ripped me about how I should have been more loyal to her daughter and that her daughter should have never sat out over the pickup players and her daughter is better than anyone on this team. She would not listen to reason or from a coaching stand point. (Her husband helps me and my AC out) He just stood there and never said a word. I was in total shock with what she was saying. She was ripping me infront of some of the players and other parents. I never once raised my voice to her or anything I just kept telling her lets not talk about this here or now! So I just told her "I am sorry you feel that way" and had to walk away before I looked like the total A$$...
The other parents that have been a part of my team from the start had came to my house later that day and was more than thankful for what I did all season and they wanted to know If I will be having a TB next year and they want to be a part of it and stick together and get better. That sure did make my season! It wasn't about the winning or loosing but about seeing the players improve and grow as a team. I may be beating a dead horse with all the parent drama but I have never had this happen ever.
Thanks for letting me vent! I feel much better now! Anyone else have this happen? What did you do?
So this weekend we had our last tournament it was a 4gg with pool play on Friday. I was short 4 players going into it as some of my original players where done playing for the team due to previous commitments. So I let the other parents and players know we would be short and if we still wanted to play that I would need to find 4 pick up players. Everyone agreed to get the pick up players. I contacted some other head coaches from other teams and was able to pick up 4 really well rounded players. We had 3 practices and those 4 players where a outstanding addition to my team. Parents where raving about how good it was to see them in practice ect ect.
So at the tournament during pool play I batted my entire lineup 11 players. Had my infield positions great we where hanging in there with very good teams. I had sat out girl #1 that is all over the place but she had batted twice and put her in as a sub. #2 girl that lost interest in pitching was a sub as well. Unfortunatly we lost both games so we went into the loosers bracket. Saturday morning rolls around and right before game time #2 girls mom comes up and just blows her top and want to know why her daughter is not playing in the infield or pitching. I told her now is not the time for that discussion and her daughter got the playing time and not to worry we still have 2 more games left. Game 1 started my girls just where flat footed out there and could not get going. Lost really bad but played a very respectable team that we have played before won against them in league play. Game 2 went with the same defense and changed out pitchers and was doing really well. Then all of a sudden when it was girl #2 at bat she was no where to be found, I looked over and she is sitting with her mom! I told her "hey we need her at bat" mother says "she is done" I was floored! I scramble to get the team back on track after girls are upset over the crazyness. Ended the game and we where out.
After the game I took the team out for our team meeting as we normally do and player #2's mom,#1 mom start walking over to the meeting and I asked them to wait until we are finished and everyone will get together as this was our last game together this year for most of the players. Two players where asked to play on a very good tournament team for another tournament. (1 being my daughter) (Big grin from dad/coach) #2's mom told her other daughter to leave with her and she didn't need to stay for anything. I didn't say a word and let her go. #1's mom pulled me aside when the meeting and goodbye's where over and just ripped me about how I should have been more loyal to her daughter and that her daughter should have never sat out over the pickup players and her daughter is better than anyone on this team. She would not listen to reason or from a coaching stand point. (Her husband helps me and my AC out) He just stood there and never said a word. I was in total shock with what she was saying. She was ripping me infront of some of the players and other parents. I never once raised my voice to her or anything I just kept telling her lets not talk about this here or now! So I just told her "I am sorry you feel that way" and had to walk away before I looked like the total A$$...
The other parents that have been a part of my team from the start had came to my house later that day and was more than thankful for what I did all season and they wanted to know If I will be having a TB next year and they want to be a part of it and stick together and get better. That sure did make my season! It wasn't about the winning or loosing but about seeing the players improve and grow as a team. I may be beating a dead horse with all the parent drama but I have never had this happen ever.
Thanks for letting me vent! I feel much better now! Anyone else have this happen? What did you do?