- Oct 7, 2009
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Here's the story. My daughter (an 8th grader) didn't try out for the middle school team because they were going to be all beginning players and she just didn't feel that she would get much out of it. Some girls quit the varsity team and left the varsity/JV teams a little short, so they had to have a second try-out. The coach asked my daughter to try out, and she did. She was officially designated a "floater," which near as I can tell means that she would play some on varsity and some on JV. As it turns out, she is on the varsity bench for every game and courtesy runs, but she never gets to play JV. She has become frustrated and is kind of down. That's not the problem (suck it up, finish the season, get over it).
The problem is that some of the older girls on the varsity team have taken to sniping at her when she makes mistakes in practice and have called her names behind her back (brat seems to be the word of choice). Now, I am not above believing that she could be a brat, but this girl has been playing since she was little and never has had trouble getting along. On top of frustration with not playing (again, deal with it), she now comes home crying because she doesn't feel like she's wanted on the team by the other girls.
According to my oldest daughter (who plays varsity), there is a lot of sniping and back biting throughout the team. The fielders talk about the pitchers not trying hard enough, the pitchers talk about the fielders, etc. It's pretty dysfunctional sounding. I don't think the coaches know or appreciate the problem (and hell, who knows, maybe my kids are imagining the whole damn thing).
My plan is to talk to the coach about what I understand the environment to be. Do you think this is wise? Bottom line is that the season is almost done, but I can't stand to see my daughter coming home crying because she doesn't feel like she belongs. I think it was a mistake letting her play above the middle school level and I feel just terrible about the whole situation.
The problem is that some of the older girls on the varsity team have taken to sniping at her when she makes mistakes in practice and have called her names behind her back (brat seems to be the word of choice). Now, I am not above believing that she could be a brat, but this girl has been playing since she was little and never has had trouble getting along. On top of frustration with not playing (again, deal with it), she now comes home crying because she doesn't feel like she's wanted on the team by the other girls.
According to my oldest daughter (who plays varsity), there is a lot of sniping and back biting throughout the team. The fielders talk about the pitchers not trying hard enough, the pitchers talk about the fielders, etc. It's pretty dysfunctional sounding. I don't think the coaches know or appreciate the problem (and hell, who knows, maybe my kids are imagining the whole damn thing).
My plan is to talk to the coach about what I understand the environment to be. Do you think this is wise? Bottom line is that the season is almost done, but I can't stand to see my daughter coming home crying because she doesn't feel like she belongs. I think it was a mistake letting her play above the middle school level and I feel just terrible about the whole situation.