I'm not a coach, I am a parent and I have been fortunate to not experience anything that sounds like what is described above. I will tell you that I feel it is my responsibility as a parent to put my daughter in the best situation to be successful. If you don't think your daughter is in the best environment, find another one. However, I'm also not one to criticize our coaches regardless of what I think. By having my daughter play for a coach I'm indicating that I trust him to guide and teach my daughter.
My daughter when through a 2-3 tourney stretch in 2013 that included the World Series where she wasn't getting much playing time. She was upset as was my wife. My feedback to my daughter was there were 2 ways she could deal with the situation. She could pout and look for people to blame or she could work her tail off to earn her spot and make it difficult to keep her on the bench. Thankfully she chose the latter and had a great spring/summer season and started all of the World Series games this summer and they won the Championship.
The bottom line for me is this. I realize this is competitive softball and there needs to be a focus on winning. But as a parent my ONLY concern is the development of my daughter. No one is going to remember or care much about those trophies you win as a 10u in the grand scheme of things. Win or lose as long as my daughter is in a situation where she is improving then we are meeting the objectives.
My daughter when through a 2-3 tourney stretch in 2013 that included the World Series where she wasn't getting much playing time. She was upset as was my wife. My feedback to my daughter was there were 2 ways she could deal with the situation. She could pout and look for people to blame or she could work her tail off to earn her spot and make it difficult to keep her on the bench. Thankfully she chose the latter and had a great spring/summer season and started all of the World Series games this summer and they won the Championship.
The bottom line for me is this. I realize this is competitive softball and there needs to be a focus on winning. But as a parent my ONLY concern is the development of my daughter. No one is going to remember or care much about those trophies you win as a 10u in the grand scheme of things. Win or lose as long as my daughter is in a situation where she is improving then we are meeting the objectives.