So DD and her friend joined a new travel team this past fall. It was already a team that the core of the team had been playing together for 2-3 years. They had tryouts and I think that only 1 other player was a new player. Did well in the fall. Spring is going ok - we're playing pretty tough teams so we lose a lot but normally compete and have only been demolished by the bigger well-known teams or when we just give them the game. Earlier this season we had some injuries and had need for a pick-up and it is actually a friend of DD and her friend (they've been playing together since 8U - we're a first year 16U) and she actually ended up with a perm spot.
We had a hard tournament recently where we had to play a Mojo and a Bolts and Bullets and it was just a big learning experience for us. It was tough but expected.
So we have 4 pitchers - DD's friend is one. One pitcher has not been getting a ton of throwing time but she still plays 3B most every game - bats 2nd in the line-up. She struggled when pitching where she is inconsistent and so I'm guessing that is why she wasn't being pitched much. She did pitch in this tournament and wasn't hitting her spots. I'm not entirely sure what all was said between her and the coaches - but they did ask her if something was wrong and if they can do anything to help. So tournament is over. We hear from DD that player is leaving. Not enough playing time (which is odd) and I guess she feels like the coaches are being too harsh on her.
Found out today that a few others are thinking of leaving.
So we think it's because the coaches do yell at them at games when we completely blow a play. I do know the coaches get a lot more worked up when it's a play they have practiced a lot. But I am one of the few parents who actually will sit and watch practices. I see how the coaches are with the girls there. They don't yell at them - encourage them and if they are not putting in effort - they will get on them but not really yell.
They kid with them a lot in practice as well. During games they are more serious and want the girls to play their best.
DD has been yelled at and pulled from a game if she isn't putting in enough effort. She actually got pulled during that tournament for one game and was pretty upset about it because it was the first game her sister had driven all the way to watch and DD didn't even get to play when she was there. She kind of was down in the dug-out and actually txted the coach (and team) to apologize for the way she had acted. (Which is huge for her because she is so scared to talk to people normally and it wasn't even something we asked her to do - so it just shows us that she is comfortable enough with these coaches to do it)
So we did ask DD and her friend their thoughts and they have no problem with the coaches yelling at the games. And they like the team a lot and the coaches. I just don't get why these other girls would be that upset about the yelling if they have been with these same coaches for years. Are we being too easy on them for not being upset about it? They are learning so much more than they did on their previous team.
I just hate the idea that this team we really like and is challenging my kid might lose so many really good players. It takes a lot for DD to do anything new so finding a new team would be so hard for her.
(sorry so long)
We had a hard tournament recently where we had to play a Mojo and a Bolts and Bullets and it was just a big learning experience for us. It was tough but expected.
So we have 4 pitchers - DD's friend is one. One pitcher has not been getting a ton of throwing time but she still plays 3B most every game - bats 2nd in the line-up. She struggled when pitching where she is inconsistent and so I'm guessing that is why she wasn't being pitched much. She did pitch in this tournament and wasn't hitting her spots. I'm not entirely sure what all was said between her and the coaches - but they did ask her if something was wrong and if they can do anything to help. So tournament is over. We hear from DD that player is leaving. Not enough playing time (which is odd) and I guess she feels like the coaches are being too harsh on her.
Found out today that a few others are thinking of leaving.
So we think it's because the coaches do yell at them at games when we completely blow a play. I do know the coaches get a lot more worked up when it's a play they have practiced a lot. But I am one of the few parents who actually will sit and watch practices. I see how the coaches are with the girls there. They don't yell at them - encourage them and if they are not putting in effort - they will get on them but not really yell.
They kid with them a lot in practice as well. During games they are more serious and want the girls to play their best.
DD has been yelled at and pulled from a game if she isn't putting in enough effort. She actually got pulled during that tournament for one game and was pretty upset about it because it was the first game her sister had driven all the way to watch and DD didn't even get to play when she was there. She kind of was down in the dug-out and actually txted the coach (and team) to apologize for the way she had acted. (Which is huge for her because she is so scared to talk to people normally and it wasn't even something we asked her to do - so it just shows us that she is comfortable enough with these coaches to do it)
So we did ask DD and her friend their thoughts and they have no problem with the coaches yelling at the games. And they like the team a lot and the coaches. I just don't get why these other girls would be that upset about the yelling if they have been with these same coaches for years. Are we being too easy on them for not being upset about it? They are learning so much more than they did on their previous team.
I just hate the idea that this team we really like and is challenging my kid might lose so many really good players. It takes a lot for DD to do anything new so finding a new team would be so hard for her.
(sorry so long)