Good point. Add to that, she didn't pitch for her 10U TB team. She last pitched in rec. And it was HE, now switching to IR. I think you're correct that I should acknowledge how hard it is, and cut back on the critiques.As amusing as all this is, I will just add one point to the OP's concerns:
The fall of first-year 12U is hard on pitchers. Like, super-duper-hard. My daughter went from striking out 2/3rds of the batters she faced as a second-year 10 to walking four batters every inning just two months later. It's soul-crushing as a player and parent to go from all-fun to no-fun in such a short period of time. The bigger ball and longer distance wreak havoc on 11 year-old softball pitchers.
Make sure your next post-game talk includes some acknowledgement that what your DD is doing is very difficult, and everyone struggles to make the move from 10U to 12U. The good news is, the last major change they face as pitchers is the rubber moving back from 40 to 43 feet at 14U, and that's a much easier transition.