Difficult and Touchy subject

Treat the relationship same as you would an opposite-sex relationship. Basically none of your business if nothing is happening in the dugout, or during practice. You wouldn't let a boyfriend come in and disrupt, even if he was serving as some sort of manager or something.

What they do outside of games and practice is up to them.

Treat the relationship same as you would an opposite-sex relationship. Basically none of your business if nothing is happening in the dugout, or during practice. You wouldn't let a boyfriend come in and disrupt, even if he was serving as some sort of manager or something.

What they do outside of games and practice is up to them.

4KidsDad said:

I was slow on the uptake on that one. . . finally got it. . . that's funny.

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Lmao. Thank you!!!


But yea as long as there not making out or bringing attention to themselves I would just let it go. That goes with straight or gay relationships. I hate seeing couples making out in public places. EWWWW!

Ken Krause said:

Treat the relationship same as you would an opposite-sex relationship. Basically none of your business if nothing is happening in the dugout, or during practice. You wouldn't let a boyfriend come in and disrupt, even if he was serving as some sort of manager or something.

What they do outside of games and practice is up to them.

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I agree but would add that I (we) will not tolerate any type of relationship or poor behavior that may affect our team/organization. If by their behavior or that of someone else with them I can tell you are something more than teammates, casual acquaintances, brother or sister it is a problem. I usually say something like "You and your brother/sister seem quite close." "But he/she is not..." at which point I interrupt and tell them I see that and you need to fix it. They are usually somewhat embarrassed.

The bottom line is you cannot completely control their off field behavior. But you sure can when they are engaged in team activities, and you need to make your expectations crystal clear. I just cut a player Sunday night due to continued inappropriate behavior that came to light via a social media clip that I received from a college coach. She had been warned and counseled, but the behavior continued leaving us with no other workable option.

Lets put it this way: you tell a teenager they can't date who they want to date who do you think they'll drop-you or the SO?

Something unique though; it's not necessarily the relationship that's the problem, it's the breakup. Being girls, I could definitely see players taking sides.

That would definitely affect the team.

Even though you can't control personal behaviour, it just doesn't seem like a good idea.

Seattlecoach said:

Lets put it this way: you tell a teenager they can't date who they want to date who do you think they'll drop-you or the SO?

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Very true. We do not care who they date, just leave it out of the team dynamic. The way we look at it is that we were looking for a player when they asked to play for us. Finding another to take their spot is far and away easier than putting up with any drama that they bring.

The 800 pound Gorilla in the room! None of your business unless it affects your dd.

There's nothing you can do about who sees whom anyway. I'd just tell them to keep it off the field and out of the dugout. The breakup likely will cause problems but again, nothing you can do about it. Kids tend to have messy relationships, same sex or not. Brace yourself

4KidsDad said:

Something unique though; it's not necessarily the relationship that's the problem, it's the breakup. Being girls, I could definitely see players taking sides.

That would definitely affect the team.

Even though you can't control personal behaviour, it just doesn't seem like a good idea.

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There are a lot of relationship issues that might affect a team. Teammates might be best friends, then have a falling out. Or one might date another's ex-boyfriend. Some teammates become close and do things together off the field while others might feel left out. You might have siblings who bicker all the time and cause stress. DD's team currently has that issue. I don't think you can outlaw best friends and siblings and certain boyfriends (or girlfriends). Just have to ensure that any resulting drama does not affect the team.