Ultimately, it doesn't matter--the truth is that good coaches don't let players pick players.
I also have an issue with the coach being willing to lie to the other girl as to why he would be removing her! Either she is ASA certified, and therefore eligible, or she isn't, in which case he put the team in peril by allowing her on the team in the first place. What a cop out....wouldn't want my kid playing for this person.