Sounds like emotions.Teaching a player the game and getting the most out of her are important, obviously. But now that my DD is finished, it doesn't matter whether she knows the game or reached her potential. If she had wanted to know the game better and reach her potential, she would've figured that out on her own. And while softball does have the great potential to teach life's lessons, so do many other things. So the biggest thing that matters to her now is whether a coach cared about her as a person and not just a player. That determines whether she looks back on a coach fondly or harshly.