Doesn't take much for rumors to start in this world, amongst adults or girls/kids. I try to chat up each family equally, though of course I have favorites.At 16U A-level ball, most of the girls are so spread out geographically that there's not much getting together outside of practice or tournaments. Our team did some community service together and had a great time. If we have huge gaps between games at tournaments, we'll either organize a potluck to eat at the fields or go to lunch together. On travel weekends, we'll meet at a restaurant for dinner after we're done for the day. We have had girls on the team before whose parents generally didn't join the group and I will say that after a while, the girls started to notice and comment that maybe so and so thinks she's too good to eat with the rest of us, etc... Or maybe two families split up and always do things together. Not a huge deal, but it is noticeable.
It’s more so the girls. If they go and just play, it doesn’t work as well. I find some of the stuff I see from college and NPF players weird (one of the players who went and played with Beijing was talking about ‘now we’re sister’ Shed known them two weeks)I see your point but if a kid is good and not a trouble maker any smart team would have her back to play another season even if the parents didn't socialize.
Where trouble happens, and it happened on our team last year, is when the kid is not good enough and the parents have become too bonded with each other. Then resentment creeps in and they wonder why their "friends" aren't advocating to keep their kid on the team.
Yeah you sound jerk-ish. I have witnessed parents like you drop kids off like a sitting service. Too good to talk to anybody. You need to hear this now not later. "It's always the parents with problems getting in the way of their kids success."Is it wrong that I don’t want to be part of a team “family”?
Dd is 12. I think we really need to join a team but I really get turned
off by the family talk-sorry no offense.
I’m sort of watching for a good fit team but so far the first thing a coach
tells me is the team family stuff. I don’t want to be cold but at the same
time I like the family stuff separate from ball games.
Will I find dd a team that just wants to work on softball ?