This is identical to our experience. So many kids make the jump to TB way too early only to quit altogether in a couple of years. There is a natural progression that should take place and all kids should take part. I understand not rec leagues are the same. Rec ball, all Stars at least through 12U. We had the most fun in All Stars. There is a close knit family environment. Play 6 tourneys with the goal of playing a B Nationals somewhere. There are just way too many C/D- level TB teams.