I know what the answer is here...I’m not really asking a question. Just looking for insight and any thoughts. The team is 18u.
I think my daughter is lucky. She has played since 12u and never had an issue with any teammates. This year though, she just doesn’t feel part of the team. She is 17, not like she’s 15 playing up. She’s an introvert and she doesn’t talk much. Kinda shy in social situations, but on the field is loud and will chatter during the game. On the bench and I guess when the talk goes away from softball she doesn’t relate to the drama of who’s dating who, etc. I don’t know if maybe this puts her teammates off. She’s been trying to get into conversations but when she does it’s awkward because no one really acknowledges her. This really wasn’t a problem but recently no one will warm up with her, she has to ask. She’s a catcher and suddenly one of the pitchers has been complaining to her. During the game there was a disagreement over signs. Pitcher doesn’t want my daughter getting into her throwing stance now (runners on) because it “messes up her target”. Things like this. Then when switched positions and my daughter got switched to third the pitcher expressed her happiness. Loudly. I noticed during the game my daughter was very low in her stance with a runner on first and I couldn’t figure out why. Then she told me after the game. She started out good yesterday but as the day went on she just looked so defeated. She is already planning on leaving after the Fall. They have one tournament left. Yes she’s going to finish. She does have offers from other teams. She could go play with them now but she will finish her commitment. Should she discuss this with coach going into next weekend or just keep quiet and finish. My gut says just to tell her to finish and don’t bother Coach. I’m thinking with 18u players coaches don’t want to get involved with drama.
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I think my daughter is lucky. She has played since 12u and never had an issue with any teammates. This year though, she just doesn’t feel part of the team. She is 17, not like she’s 15 playing up. She’s an introvert and she doesn’t talk much. Kinda shy in social situations, but on the field is loud and will chatter during the game. On the bench and I guess when the talk goes away from softball she doesn’t relate to the drama of who’s dating who, etc. I don’t know if maybe this puts her teammates off. She’s been trying to get into conversations but when she does it’s awkward because no one really acknowledges her. This really wasn’t a problem but recently no one will warm up with her, she has to ask. She’s a catcher and suddenly one of the pitchers has been complaining to her. During the game there was a disagreement over signs. Pitcher doesn’t want my daughter getting into her throwing stance now (runners on) because it “messes up her target”. Things like this. Then when switched positions and my daughter got switched to third the pitcher expressed her happiness. Loudly. I noticed during the game my daughter was very low in her stance with a runner on first and I couldn’t figure out why. Then she told me after the game. She started out good yesterday but as the day went on she just looked so defeated. She is already planning on leaving after the Fall. They have one tournament left. Yes she’s going to finish. She does have offers from other teams. She could go play with them now but she will finish her commitment. Should she discuss this with coach going into next weekend or just keep quiet and finish. My gut says just to tell her to finish and don’t bother Coach. I’m thinking with 18u players coaches don’t want to get involved with drama.
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