I was at a varsity HS game yesterday, and a Dad was standing directly behind home plate offering guidance to his daughter as she pitched. In the first inning, he told her to, "get head in the count," which is a slightly more nuanced way of saying, "just throw strikes."
Moms, dads...just don't. When your child is pitching, take your lawn chair and move all the way down the foul line and watch the game. Then, shut up and let her pitch.,
She has to learn to do this herself, without anyone's help. And, she has to take ownership--which means iff she succeeds, it's her success, not yours. If she fails,it's her failure, not yours.
Couldn’t be truer! I stopped telling my kid anything, batting or pitching a long time ago, She has enough to worry about without me filling her head with swing thoughts right before an at bat.