I hoping to get a little sanity check. Well truthfully someone to tell me I am right
Last fall my DD played travel as a first year 10U. In-between two different foot injuries she played pretty well and mostly hit at the top of the lineup. For reasons this dad still does not understand (I am not sure DD does either), DD REALLY did not want to play for this coach / team in the spring. So we let her skip travel. When we told her travel coach she was not going to play the spring he told dd she always has a home on this team whenever she wants.
This spring in req ball, she was pretty dominant, particularly pitching. She was asked to play on an 11U All-star team. 7 of the 12 girls on the all-star team were travel girls. 5 of those girls were / are way better than her. but overall she held her own.
Come fall, going back to the travel team is still not an option in her head. But DD asked to play rec softball instead of soccer (Yayyy!!!!). DD wants to stay in 10U as one of her best friends is playing for the first time. DD wants to be on her team. So I let her make that decision. Frankly, she is not going to get a whole lot better.
Everyone that has found out about this decision has told me I am nutz. 2 of of the TB 12U coaches suggested I should have made her play travel. Her all star coach thinks it is ridiculous to let her play against girls a year younger than her. DW is frustrated at me because she is not going to get better.
One point has me half second guessing myself. A few times this season, DD got in the car after a game and said, "Dad, this is bad. None of the girls can play. This isn't fun."
Am I nutz to not force her to do TB? Not force her to move up to 12U for fall ball? I do plan I making her move to 12U in the spring. But I am really hoping that this fall is enough of a mess (I hate to say that), that DD will make the decision on her own.
Is it me or everyone else?
Thanks for listening to this long rambling.
Last fall my DD played travel as a first year 10U. In-between two different foot injuries she played pretty well and mostly hit at the top of the lineup. For reasons this dad still does not understand (I am not sure DD does either), DD REALLY did not want to play for this coach / team in the spring. So we let her skip travel. When we told her travel coach she was not going to play the spring he told dd she always has a home on this team whenever she wants.
This spring in req ball, she was pretty dominant, particularly pitching. She was asked to play on an 11U All-star team. 7 of the 12 girls on the all-star team were travel girls. 5 of those girls were / are way better than her. but overall she held her own.
Come fall, going back to the travel team is still not an option in her head. But DD asked to play rec softball instead of soccer (Yayyy!!!!). DD wants to stay in 10U as one of her best friends is playing for the first time. DD wants to be on her team. So I let her make that decision. Frankly, she is not going to get a whole lot better.
Everyone that has found out about this decision has told me I am nutz. 2 of of the TB 12U coaches suggested I should have made her play travel. Her all star coach thinks it is ridiculous to let her play against girls a year younger than her. DW is frustrated at me because she is not going to get better.
One point has me half second guessing myself. A few times this season, DD got in the car after a game and said, "Dad, this is bad. None of the girls can play. This isn't fun."
Am I nutz to not force her to do TB? Not force her to move up to 12U for fall ball? I do plan I making her move to 12U in the spring. But I am really hoping that this fall is enough of a mess (I hate to say that), that DD will make the decision on her own.
Is it me or everyone else?
Thanks for listening to this long rambling.