The whole point of everything I've been doing was to try to make things better. Clearly that way doesn't work. I don't have a problem shifting an approach if the current one isn't working. But without a better plan...Both.
Double-goal coaching - Help them develop the skills they need to succeed/win, but also teach them life lessons.
2nd goal parents - Reinforce the life lessons, let the coaches coach.
Triple-impact competitor - Learn to improve/lift up self, team, and the game.
Good stuff. Used to be called common sense, but we have gotten way far away from a lot of this basic stuff.
Best of luck! Sounds like you're willing to change to make things better, and that can often be the hardest part.
You know what they say, if the only tool you have is a hammer, every problem you come across looks like a nail. It's obvious I need more tools.