I am going to be honest with you. I was stressed out after reading your post. She has to have fun!! Believe me I have been there half the studs we played with in 10U are not playing anymore. Softball is a marathon not a sprint. DD's first pitching coach told me you really won't know what you have until she is 16. I didn't believe her at the time but she was 100% correct. She coaches in the ACC, and I remember that conversation everyday. Find her an environment where she can develop, and set some attainable goals.