2024 DD is in a pickle of sorts.
She has tryouts this weekend for her current team on Sunday. She is not real thrilled about her current team. Really likes the girls but not the coaching and has been unhappy all spring and its shown in her confidence and performance. She is also going to another org tryout on Saturday. On this prospective team, she knows 2 of the coaches and really likes them. Current team is dads (I being 1 of them) and prospect team is non parent coached and has a female coach that other players love and parents respect as a coach. This team is also a higher level team than what we have been on so it will really push DD plus it wont be coming from coach dad. It’s also a good drive from the house but DD is ok with that. The decision is fairly simple for us to join IF she makes the team.
My question is, when should I tell her current HC that we are going to the other tryout? Before or after the prospective team tryout that is Saturday or before or after our team tryouts on Sunday? I am certain someone will see us at the first one and tell him. I also don’t think he is expecting DD to leave but she is pretty much over this coach. I’d prefer not to tell him until we find out but I dont expect it to stay a secret. Plus, I feel like we owe some respect to him to be looking and to know the status of the situation. I’m not trying to burn the bridge as the HC and myself have coached together a while over the years.
Just looking for opinions on this. We are all pretty stressed about all of it at this point.
WANNABE cool about it as possible
She has tryouts this weekend for her current team on Sunday. She is not real thrilled about her current team. Really likes the girls but not the coaching and has been unhappy all spring and its shown in her confidence and performance. She is also going to another org tryout on Saturday. On this prospective team, she knows 2 of the coaches and really likes them. Current team is dads (I being 1 of them) and prospect team is non parent coached and has a female coach that other players love and parents respect as a coach. This team is also a higher level team than what we have been on so it will really push DD plus it wont be coming from coach dad. It’s also a good drive from the house but DD is ok with that. The decision is fairly simple for us to join IF she makes the team.
My question is, when should I tell her current HC that we are going to the other tryout? Before or after the prospective team tryout that is Saturday or before or after our team tryouts on Sunday? I am certain someone will see us at the first one and tell him. I also don’t think he is expecting DD to leave but she is pretty much over this coach. I’d prefer not to tell him until we find out but I dont expect it to stay a secret. Plus, I feel like we owe some respect to him to be looking and to know the status of the situation. I’m not trying to burn the bridge as the HC and myself have coached together a while over the years.
Just looking for opinions on this. We are all pretty stressed about all of it at this point.
WANNABE cool about it as possible