My DD made a play that ended our teams championship hopes this year. I knew she would be a mess after that game. I talked to a very experienced and successful coach and asked him what do you say to a kid after something like that? He said you say and do Nothing until they are ready to talk. Best advice anybody ever gave me. Then when it's time to talk, they need to understand it's a team sport, one play does not define a game.How about some advice for Reaperjet on the post-game talk? This is a tough one too. If you're too upbeat after a rough loss, the kid knows you're just blowing smoke. Nobody wants to be too critical and be that parent, either. I usually just say something like "tough game today, that was a good team," and leave it at that. The end result is usually a pretty quiet car ride home, which I'm not so sure is the best thing either.