DD moved (yet again, old 12u team moved to 14u for 2020) to new team, mostly 2008s (she is 2007). she had guest played for them before in 10u, they are part of same org she was in a couple of years ago in 10u, but a that point she was on team with primarily 2007s
when we tried out, it was pretty proforma, coaches wanted her. at end of first tryout, they made standard speech to parents there, couple of more tryouts, then we will be in touch, then as we were walking away, calls DW and me aside, and says she is starting C if she joins. during subsequent discussions with coaches, they indicated that they are looking for DD to take a leadership role, especially with the other two Cs (one of whom is 2009, and has been told they will see little time at C) to help them develop. they asked her to come to the rest of tryouts, to see what the other girls had, and to start to set the bar for teammates.
so far, (couple of friendlies, one single day tourney, 7 games in all), DD is trying, but too often, at least during games, she comes off as a little too critical of teammates. don't get me wrong, in general she is doing a great job, and a lot of it is by example (never complaining about where she plays, if she sits, etc., remembering signs). but if they start to make mistakes in games, she sometimes says things a little to harshly.
any suggestions for how to explain to her how to frame her comments to be more constructive than criticizing?
when we tried out, it was pretty proforma, coaches wanted her. at end of first tryout, they made standard speech to parents there, couple of more tryouts, then we will be in touch, then as we were walking away, calls DW and me aside, and says she is starting C if she joins. during subsequent discussions with coaches, they indicated that they are looking for DD to take a leadership role, especially with the other two Cs (one of whom is 2009, and has been told they will see little time at C) to help them develop. they asked her to come to the rest of tryouts, to see what the other girls had, and to start to set the bar for teammates.
so far, (couple of friendlies, one single day tourney, 7 games in all), DD is trying, but too often, at least during games, she comes off as a little too critical of teammates. don't get me wrong, in general she is doing a great job, and a lot of it is by example (never complaining about where she plays, if she sits, etc., remembering signs). but if they start to make mistakes in games, she sometimes says things a little to harshly.
any suggestions for how to explain to her how to frame her comments to be more constructive than criticizing?