I have a 13 year old daughter who is a perfectionist in everything and who is a very intelligent young lady academically.
We have had numerous issues over the years and continuing through the present with my daughter getting down on herself after striking out or making an error. On occasion, she gets emotional (which tends to go along with perfectionism) which is not acceptable while participating in a sport, especially at her age.
Any suggestions on how to make her understand that short term goals of good cuts, sound mechanics and hustle are another measure of success, besides playing an errorless game or going 4-4 batting. She just cannot seem to mesh the concept that good hitters in softball "fail" 7-10 times with her perfectionist personality. She truly loves the game of softball and skillwise she is solid (probably from that same personality trait). This perfectionism standard is a positive trait in practice but at the same time is a hindrance in game situations (following a perceived failure) which reflects in her sometimes low overall batting average.
Any approaches to reinforcing a positive mental attitude and handling a strike out / error, especially for perfectionists, would be greatly appreciated. What I am looking for is a routine or a method of calming that she can work on and implement when she feels herself becoming frustated and/or tense.
I have googled for suggestions mostly to find price tags of $75.00 or more for psychological products.
Thanks!
We have had numerous issues over the years and continuing through the present with my daughter getting down on herself after striking out or making an error. On occasion, she gets emotional (which tends to go along with perfectionism) which is not acceptable while participating in a sport, especially at her age.
Any suggestions on how to make her understand that short term goals of good cuts, sound mechanics and hustle are another measure of success, besides playing an errorless game or going 4-4 batting. She just cannot seem to mesh the concept that good hitters in softball "fail" 7-10 times with her perfectionist personality. She truly loves the game of softball and skillwise she is solid (probably from that same personality trait). This perfectionism standard is a positive trait in practice but at the same time is a hindrance in game situations (following a perceived failure) which reflects in her sometimes low overall batting average.
Any approaches to reinforcing a positive mental attitude and handling a strike out / error, especially for perfectionists, would be greatly appreciated. What I am looking for is a routine or a method of calming that she can work on and implement when she feels herself becoming frustated and/or tense.
I have googled for suggestions mostly to find price tags of $75.00 or more for psychological products.
Thanks!