Great post, and all very true! Not going to lie, I'm responsible for two on that list, and they're on me! I could make excuses why but it doesn't matter!This post is not directed at anyone person. It’s a response to annasdad but for what he related
Your DDs need to be responsible for more of their game.
Is your dd 11 and you are carrying her gear. Stop it she can carry her own. If it’s too heavy then Either stop buying more stuff or have her toss out the 36 half bottles of water in the bag
Is she 12 and your the only one caring for her equipment?
Stop, she can clean her shoes and make sure they are out of the bag to dry.
Is she 14 and has no idea of when her next practice is because you handle it
Stop it, she can manage her social calendar she can manage her sports one as well
Is she 14 and a parent has to watch her practice?
Stop it, go home, shopping, read a book in a park...
Is she in HS and do you solve all her issues at school?
Stop. Oversee but let her deal with them as possible.
Is she 16 and you drive her everywhere
If she has a license Stop it
Do you do all the laundry for her?
Stop and teach her how
There are a thousand other things we do, that we need to let the kid take responsibility for. No one at college is going to do these things for her. To drop her off at college and expect it to be easy for her when she has never been required to take care of herself and manage her own time. Plus the more rigorous schedule. You have set her up to fail.