- Oct 21, 2016
Hi All. I hoping to run into some people who have had this problem with their DD before. My DD plays 12U on a competitive B team, and I am an assistant coach. She is one of the better players on the team, has hit in the 2-3 hole all year, and is the starting catcher. She wants to win and succeed so much that her disappointment in herself and the team losing begins to look like an attitude problem, and/or poor sportsmanship. Here are typical examples. She struck out twice in spots the team could have really used hits this past weekend and both times slumped into a corner crying in the dugout. With 2 outs in the bottom of the last inning down 5-1 she ripped a triple into the gap and came into 3rd where I was coaching elated. The next girl struck out and the game was over with her standing on 3rd and she was again somewhere between tears and being very mad. Other times it has been dropped 3rd strikes, pops dropped behind home, and bad throws to 2nd. These emotional knee jerk reactions of hers only typically last minutes and she snaps out of it and is back in the game, but sometimes they effect subsequent plays. It's as if she is simply overwhelmed by emotions and can't control her actions for short periods of time. During these few minutes of uncontrolled emotions she won't talk to anyone and has several times walked by teammates trying to high five her. She is never loud or yells, but it is simply to upset to talk or interact with anyone. The coaches in private even refer to her death stair that she has when she is mad, but they also love her drive to compete and win that comes with it. I have tried everything when this happens from being super positive and supportive, to getting upset with her actions, and everything in between. We can talk about them after the game and she knows her actions aren't appropriate, but she can't control it when it happens. Soon she will be on teams where I am not a coach or the coachs aren't other parents she has known, and I'm afraid they simply won't put up with it, no matter what she can do between the lines. I keep hoping it's a faze and she grows out of it, but she will 13 in less than 2 months.