- Dec 11, 2010
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My days of coaching dd are over.
I‘ll add this not because I think anyone here is wrong or because I think my answer is the only answer.
I tried hard to treat her the same as other players.
Not only to be fair to her, but ALSO because there are some really subtle messages that are sent when you correct your dd more often. Strangely, some will absolutely take that to mean you care more about her than the other players. Which you do, of course, lol.
Also: I made this mistake two or three times: I would get on my dd for something I wanted the whole team to do better. That never works. It actually shut down the rest of the team. I knew I screwed up the first time I did it. Took me one or two more times for my simple brain to realize I should quit doing it, lol
Being a good parent coach is a really tough thing to do. You just have to know that you will probably mess up but you just have to keep working on it.
I‘ll add this not because I think anyone here is wrong or because I think my answer is the only answer.
I tried hard to treat her the same as other players.
Not only to be fair to her, but ALSO because there are some really subtle messages that are sent when you correct your dd more often. Strangely, some will absolutely take that to mean you care more about her than the other players. Which you do, of course, lol.
Also: I made this mistake two or three times: I would get on my dd for something I wanted the whole team to do better. That never works. It actually shut down the rest of the team. I knew I screwed up the first time I did it. Took me one or two more times for my simple brain to realize I should quit doing it, lol
Being a good parent coach is a really tough thing to do. You just have to know that you will probably mess up but you just have to keep working on it.