It happens, and it's a tough situation to deal with. Hopefully you know a coaches methods before you make the commitment! There's one in our area, a high level D1 coach who also coaches TB for HIS organization. And this guy is an excellent coach, and VERY well connected! He's Hell on wheels, you better have very thick skin before you even think of playing for this guy!
I don't know your coach, but I promise I'd put my money on the coach I'm taking about! You'd think this guy has a permanent bullhorn somehow attached to his throat, loudest human being I've ever heard!
There's a big difference between being loud and shaming girls on the field in front of parents, the other team, and teammates. That is not any way to improve performance, especially in a teenage girl. Also, there's a big difference between wanting to perform well for the coach because you respect him and being terrified to screw up because you're expecting to be dressed down loudly at a game.