cannot have this as an absolute, you have to use your judgement in each individual situation. We have had DD stay with one of her previous coaches (albeit a woman, but it really doesnt change anything) a couple of tournaments due to circumstances.Background checks are no substitute for proper parenting. It is up to you to look out for your own. Never let your kid near any adult when it is only the two of them. No rides home, or to the game. Be suspect of any coach that would allow themselves to be put in a situation where they are alone with a player.
I hate to say I am not overly surprised by this one in the least.Only problem is that a background check is useless if they have no prior criminal history. Also most of the major sanctions reuire it for coaches now to register for championship play.
How many times are you completely surprised when you hear things like this because you didn't expect it? If this guy had a clean record and this brave girl had not come forward he could have kept doing it to another and then another and no background check would have stopped him. Best thing we can do is keep and eye on our DD's and make sure they know we are there for them for anything and pray people like this guy are not around them.
And I would include in that conversation that anyone who tells you they will kill your family if you tell is LYING. That means he's a coward and he is terrified of what your father will do to him if he finds out.It's obviously been covered, but a background check wouldn't have done a thing for this. I've said this before on here somewhere else, but you've got to BE SUPER OPEN WITH YOUR KIDS!!!! You can't dance around subjects like sex and abuse. I had lots of super involved conversations with my DD and they included every single excuse a boy would use to get into her pants. Not only "boys" but tactics men would use to groom a child, how rape would occur from the mental to the physical. She's been involved in self defense courses but I made sure we went through more detail on how to defend herself. I held her with the strength of a man, made her calm down and go through all the things she needed to do. I've done just about all I can do to make sure she knows what to do from speaking up to defending herself. People are too afraid to make themselves, and their kids, be uncomfortable with discussions about sex and what's appropriate vs not. You've got to be OPEN with your kids, including mistakes you've made so that they know you're human too. If you won't talk to them about the smaller stuff, they won't talk to you about the bigger stuff!
As far as being a coach, my DD and I coached a 12u LL baseball team this past season. I made it known to the parents that I would not pick up or take any kids home if my DD was not with me. I would never be alone with their kids. That should be a staple!
100% right. If this happened to our family, I'd be the one who would be in jail. The coach would have a tag around his big toe.And I would include in that conversation that anyone who tells you they will kill your family if you tell is LYING. That means he's a coward and he is terrified of what your father will do to him if he finds out.