DD recently tried out for and made a "better" 12U TB team that she has been wanting to play on for a while. I was reluctant to let her try out just out of fear of her being disappointed if she did not make it, but she did. The coach told me that they already have 3 pitchers on the team, and that he could not guarantee her any circle time. I told him I was fine with that as long as the time was being determined by production instead of promised time to certain pitchers and I explained this to my DD as well. I told her that she had to work in order to get into the top 3.
This weekend was our first double header, and each pitcher was scheduled to pitch at least 2 innings each. The other 3 pitchers did pretty well, while DD did not perform as well. She ended up walking 5 batters, striking out 2, and throwing one out at first while giving up 2 runs. It was frustrating for me to watch, and I think DD knew it even though I didn't say anything. I put to much pressure on her, and made the experience more than she was able to handle. To top it off, after the game she told me she was sorry for not doing well. I have felt guilty ever since. Although I want DD to perform to her ability, it is just a game and I want to focus more on making our many hours together playing softball memorable instead of disappointing.
This weekend was our first double header, and each pitcher was scheduled to pitch at least 2 innings each. The other 3 pitchers did pretty well, while DD did not perform as well. She ended up walking 5 batters, striking out 2, and throwing one out at first while giving up 2 runs. It was frustrating for me to watch, and I think DD knew it even though I didn't say anything. I put to much pressure on her, and made the experience more than she was able to handle. To top it off, after the game she told me she was sorry for not doing well. I have felt guilty ever since. Although I want DD to perform to her ability, it is just a game and I want to focus more on making our many hours together playing softball memorable instead of disappointing.