My 12yr daughter has a great swing her power has been checked and its in the high school range and she is only in 6th grade. She has learned by hitting coaches all there is to learn,and sometimes there are great fantastic hits and sometimes its like her head is off to another planet. She just wont listen at times and it drives me crazy.What to do.Is this a growing up moment at 12 please let me know your thoughts.
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Your 12yo DD won't listen to you? Welcome to the club. This is standard operating procedure for a 12yo.
How was her power "checked"? What is "high school range"?
If she has learned all there is to learn, can she come teach the rest of us? I would also be very interested to see video of her swing.
The very best hitters in the game don't hit the ball well every time. Why are you expecting something more from a 12yo?
How was her power "checked"? What is "high school range"?
If she has learned all there is to learn, can she come teach the rest of us? I would also be very interested to see video of her swing.
The very best hitters in the game don't hit the ball well every time. Why are you expecting something more from a 12yo?
She won't listen to who?
What does she need to be told?
Might need more specifics here. It might be that she needs to learn to be more coachable, but it also could be that she needs to be left alone to figure it out for herself. Sometimes kids are hearing too much noise.
I suggest two things. A comfortable folding chair placed strategically beyond the fence in right field and a big bag of sunflower seeds. Watch and enjoy her enjoyment from there and if you feel yourself going crazy, shove a handful of seeds in your mouth.
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I remember when I knew everything. That was, oh, 25 years ago now. Seems as though I know less every year these days.
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My dd has told me that when she grew up, all of her friends were afraid of me. That includes 2 that I am still close to today and one of them is like my other dd. She told me that when I said something, she did it right away. I just can't imagine a 12U that doesn't do what they are told to do. I'll count my blessings again. LOL
No 12U player knows it all about hitting. No 59 year old guy that is an "ex expert" knows it all about hitting. IMO, what is missing here then is effective communication. A player needs to be told why they do things and taught in a manner that ensure that they can have effective communication with the hitting coach/and parents. They also have to be open to constructive criticism. IOWs, I'm not above telling a player that is getting a big head that she/he has a lot of potential but "potential" only means that they haven't done anything yet. I'll wrap this up by saying that one of the best things a parent can do is, "catch your child doing good." IOWs praise them on the good that they do and they will notice. Then, when you have to resort to pointing out the bad, they'll know that you care about both good and bad. Now, I usually charge $350 for 30 minutes of me psychoanalyzing a situation so this one is for free. LOL
No 12U player knows it all about hitting. No 59 year old guy that is an "ex expert" knows it all about hitting. IMO, what is missing here then is effective communication. A player needs to be told why they do things and taught in a manner that ensure that they can have effective communication with the hitting coach/and parents. They also have to be open to constructive criticism. IOWs, I'm not above telling a player that is getting a big head that she/he has a lot of potential but "potential" only means that they haven't done anything yet. I'll wrap this up by saying that one of the best things a parent can do is, "catch your child doing good." IOWs praise them on the good that they do and they will notice. Then, when you have to resort to pointing out the bad, they'll know that you care about both good and bad. Now, I usually charge $350 for 30 minutes of me psychoanalyzing a situation so this one is for free. LOL
now that right there is funny stuff. I have a young, stubborn catcher with a lot of potential who could use that chair.
now that right there is funny stuff. I have a young, stubborn catcher with a lot of potential who could use that chair.
The chair is for the parent, not the player.
12U players are usually very good about doing what their coaches tell them to do...unless the coach is also their parent. If BB always did what you told her to do, without attitude, she's an anomaly.
I'm hoping we hear back from peanut. I want to hear more about how his DD has learned everything there is to learn from her hitting coaches. If that's really the case, I have a feeling it might be time for a new hitting coach.
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