My descriptions were intentionally not colorful. The baserunner that took out the 2Ber went out of her way to railroad the 2Ber ... the 'out' was already evident ... the intent was to put the kid in the hospital ... which was result ... she didn't play again for the remainder of the season. The cleating of the hands resulted in stitches ... very clear intent ... the baserunner had reached the bag safely and the intent was to inflict severe pain to obtain an out.
It's an eye opener for girls that haven't seen the game played at a highly competitive level. However, they grow up quickly.
You must be talking about Rugby? I'm not saying it doesn't happen, seen it myself.. But you make it seem like this is a common thing in competitive softball, which it isn't. A coach can't always be responsible for one kids random action.. but when you have multiple kids repeating these actions, you can guarantee that this influence comes from leadership. It's our job to teach kids being competitive and winning is important, but not at all costs.