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Apr 16, 2013
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Great points by Eric. I can share a few things for my DD from my perspective and also a few things from her perspective. Maybe it'll help, maybe it won't. My DD has always been an excellent 2 strike batter. If she's swung at 2 pitches and missed, admittedly I'm a little bit worried. If she swung at the second one and fouled it off, I'm feeling more confident. If she fouled off both then I'm 90% sure the other team is in trouble. She's figuring the pitcher out and learning from each pitch she sees. You can't pass up how important that is. Every pitcher is different!

The biggest thing is LEARNING the pitcher AND the umpire. She has a REALLY REALLY good eye. So does your DD pay attention to the umpire's strike zone? I guarantee you every single umpire is different. I almost always sit behind the plate and watch where the umpire is calling strikes. I admit I'll have a quick chat with my DD about what she sees and what I see. I'm talking 10 seconds. What does she see though? Watch the game before yours if you can. Talk about what she's seeing. Getting in that mindset is really important. It has her going to the plate with more knowledge. Honestly, the worst thing for my DD is a bad, inconsistent, ump. If your strike zone is low, that's fine. If your strike zone is high, that's fine. If you call something a little off the plate, that's fine. JUST BE CONSISTENT ABOUT IT!!!!

Ok, so you've got two strikes? You can no longer be choosy. You've got to hit the ball hard wherever it is. If it's outside, just off the plate, smack it. If it's inside, turn hard on it. If they throw it down the middle, their loss. It may not work out, but she has to go into a two strike count knowing she's going to nail anything the pitcher gives her. She should be able to see pure junk. "That's way too high, that's in the other batter's box, that's in the dirt." Anything else gets hit. Sometimes you hit it hard, sometimes you hit crap and sometimes you strike out, but sometimes you often kill it. The simple thing is that with two strikes, you can now hit anything that pitcher throws!

That brings me to my last thought. Over and over again, it has to be said that this and baseball is a game of failure!!! You have to accept failure as a result. You WILL get struck out. Balls WILL have bad bounces that you simply can't train for. Umps WILL make bad calls. You must accept failure. This one is pretty hard for my DD. Regardless of outcome, you and your DD have to accept that no matter what you do, sometimes, hell a lot of times, she will fail. Tell her that over and over again. With the successes, will come the failures. There's nothing wrong with it, it's a part of the game!!!
 
May 24, 2013
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Great points by Eric. I can share a few things for my DD from my perspective and also a few things from her perspective. Maybe it'll help, maybe it won't. My DD has always been an excellent 2 strike batter. If she's swung at 2 pitches and missed, admittedly I'm a little bit worried. If she swung at the second one and fouled it off, I'm feeling more confident. If she fouled off both then I'm 90% sure the other team is in trouble. She's figuring the pitcher out and learning from each pitch she sees. You can't pass up how important that is. Every pitcher is different!

The biggest thing is LEARNING the pitcher AND the umpire. She has a REALLY REALLY good eye. So does your DD pay attention to the umpire's strike zone? I guarantee you every single umpire is different. I almost always sit behind the plate and watch where the umpire is calling strikes. I admit I'll have a quick chat with my DD about what she sees and what I see. I'm talking 10 seconds. What does she see though? Watch the game before yours if you can. Talk about what she's seeing. Getting in that mindset is really important. It has her going to the plate with more knowledge. Honestly, the worst thing for my DD is a bad, inconsistent, ump. If your strike zone is low, that's fine. If your strike zone is high, that's fine. If you call something a little off the plate, that's fine. JUST BE CONSISTENT ABOUT IT!!!!

Ok, so you've got two strikes? You can no longer be choosy. You've got to hit the ball hard wherever it is. If it's outside, just off the plate, smack it. If it's inside, turn hard on it. If they throw it down the middle, their loss. It may not work out, but she has to go into a two strike count knowing she's going to nail anything the pitcher gives her. She should be able to see pure junk. "That's way too high, that's in the other batter's box, that's in the dirt." Anything else gets hit. Sometimes you hit it hard, sometimes you hit crap and sometimes you strike out, but sometimes you often kill it. The simple thing is that with two strikes, you can now hit anything that pitcher throws!

That brings me to my last thought. Over and over again, it has to be said that this and baseball is a game of failure!!! You have to accept failure as a result. You WILL get struck out. Balls WILL have bad bounces that you simply can't train for. Umps WILL make bad calls. You must accept failure. This one is pretty hard for my DD. Regardless of outcome, you and your DD have to accept that no matter what you do, sometimes, hell a lot of times, she will fail. Tell her that over and over again. With the successes, will come the failures. There's nothing wrong with it, it's a part of the game!!!

Agreed 100%. Great points!

One of the big life-lessons in this sport is learning how to fail, recover, and try again. I have seen - more times than I can count - young players who fail (strikeout, error, etc.) and they fall into a hole of negativity. My DD was one of those girls through most of 10U. She would K, and come back to the dugout in tears. I get that she was upset, and expected more for herself, and I knew she would keep working hard to get better. However, that one issue would take her out of the game, mentally, for a while. Additionally, other players would get sucked into her negativity hole, and it would start affecting the whole team. She eventually learned how to let those things roll off, and stay focused on helping her team. There were some girls that were still struggling with this in 12U TB. It's a learning process.
 
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She eventually learned how to left those things roll off, and stay focused on helping her team.

TBH, this right here is the most important thing one can learn in softball/baseball. I've said this a million times on here, but not being able to do this ruined not only my baseball career, but more importantly, ruined the fun for me. I hated playing in games from the age of 13 through when
I quit in college because I couldn't handle the inevitable failure. My college teammates and coach (very inappropriately I might add) would call me Tourette because of my outbursts. It was embarrassing to everybody who cared for me.
 

ian

Jun 11, 2015
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Practice, practice, practice. The more she practices the better she will get. Once she see's how much better she gets from practice her confidence will grow. Nothing builds confidence like success. Her confidence will be genuine and unshakeable. Later when she has a slump or faces tougher competition she will know how to work it out. Practice.
 

Tom

Mar 13, 2014
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What worked for my DD was finally understanding "game face". It came through an unexpected channel, drama class. I don't think she ever really got the idea of game face, just that it was to be focused. After learning about getting into character in drama class something clicked and she now has an incredibly aggressive persona in game (totally different person off the field). She was lucky and got to work with Kelsey Stewart at a camp and just adopted her approach and made it her game persona.
 
Aug 1, 2017
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I didn't play baseball either. I grew up playing ice hockey, and raced bicycles as a younger adult. My join date to this form (May 2013) was when I got serious about learning all I could about the game of softball in order to be a better guide for my DD. I have learned a lot from some wonderful coaches my DD has played for, and I've had the fortune to coach along side. I've learned more than I could ever have imagined from the shared wisdom of the people on this site that have gone down the road before me, and that knowledge has been significant in my growth into becoming an effective coach and instructor.One of the things I've learned on DFP...No matter what it is, someone else has already experienced it, and can offer some input. Never stop learning, and ask lots of questions.

As for the mental side with young female athletes, there's a generalization that is often helpful..."Boys need to play good to feel good. Girls need to feel good to play good." There are always exceptions, but this is a good place to start. Self-esteem and self-confidence are HUGE factors. At the younger ages, you will get a lot farther by complimenting their successes, than you will by criticizing their failures. A player comes back to the dugout, upset because of a strikeout, look her in the eye with kindness and compliment her intent..."Good job, Susie. I love that you were up there making good swings and trying to hit the ball hard. You'll get it next time."

How old is your DD? What level is she playing - rec? school? travel?
Starting our first season of 12u. Has played a year and a half of travel. Her new team is a travel team.

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May 24, 2013
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Starting our first season of 12u. Has played a year and a half of travel. Her new team is a travel team.

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Cool. I'm fresh from that arena. My DD is a first-year 14U TB player (13yo).

As I mentioned earlier, finding positive points - even within "failures" - is a big thing at this age. Compliment good efforts, regardless of the result. Good intent and good effort will become good results.
 

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