Lots of teams out there, let them know of your disapproval by taking your daughter elsewhere
Dad "promoted" to assistant and all hell breaks loose (LONG)
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Lots of teams out there, let them know of your disapproval by taking your daughter elsewhere
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True, but this would ramp up the drama quite a bit. We have paid the (considerable) team fee already, and the sum is enough that we'd want most of it back. My daughter likes the team, and we have great admiration for the HC. We'll see how he deals with the situation.
If your concern was keeping a damper on the drama, you wouldn't post about it on a softball forum.
Pull your kid from the team, if a few others follow suit then hopefully the HC parts ways with the Rambo dad (is he sub 6 foot? Sub 6 foot males always Napoleon out) and then you guys can go back. If the HC keeps the guy, you go elsewhere. If you're not prepared to leave then you're either not bothered by it or not that dedicated to your kid that you would get them outbof a toxic situation.
Pull your kid from the team, if a few others follow suit then hopefully the HC parts ways with the Rambo dad (is he sub 6 foot? Sub 6 foot males always Napoleon out) and then you guys can go back. If the HC keeps the guy, you go elsewhere. If you're not prepared to leave then you're either not bothered by it or not that dedicated to your kid that you would get them outbof a toxic situation.
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So what you're suggesting is that instead of seeing whether the head coach solves the problem himself after speaking with him is to escalate by quitting the team to see if anyone else leaves? Do I have that right?
I posted about it on a softball forum to see if anyone had any constructive advice. This ain't it, chief.
I would not make a move yet and give it a little time. When I was coaching I got in a position that I needed some extra help from some dads. They all sounded great when first talking and thought it would help the team. The next thing I knew they were running their on drills in practice. Telling players to do things against my philosophy. It was very obvious very quick it was headed in a bad direction. When trying to reign them in they decided they would take the team over and planned a parent meeting without my knowledge to get other parents on board. Needless to say they were no longer on the team. Hated like crazy to do that to the girls but there was no other options. So sometimes a head coach may try something and it doesn’t work. Give him the opportunity to make it right. If no correction happens then it’s time to move on because the coach is not really as good as you thought.
I agree with the idea to give the head coach an opportunity to fix this, but in a more direct manner. Assuming the state of things is as you say, and on the brink of collapse, I would have a very direct conversation with the HC. If other parents agree with you and are close to leaving then I would let the coach know that he is going to have to choose between keeping the assistant or keeping multiple players. Tell him bluntly that this is not an ultimatum, just the truth. Let him know you respect him greatly, and want to play for him as HC, just not with this assistant. Assuming it is as close to collapse as it sounds, what do you have to lose?
My suggestion would be that you let the head coach know that the rectal wart he has with him on the bench is a poor reflection on your kid and all of the other kids on the team and at least you and your kid are leaving until warty is relieved of his duties
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Since the height of the average man is 5'9.5", I think "always" is a major exaggeration. lol
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First, I wouldn't listen to J. Galt.
Second, you obviously need to have a conversation with the coach and see how it goes.
Second, you obviously need to have a conversation with the coach and see how it goes.
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I was a it more diplomatic about it, but this is exactly what I did. The timing was a little tough, because it was two hours before we started day-two of a disastrous tournament. HC said all the right things - about how he regretted asking the guy for help and that he was going to talk to the dad. The reason I posted about it here was to get some insight on how to handle things if we don't see a correction.
I appreciate the input, though.
