Please help with proper etiquette for “tryout week”

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Aug 1, 2018
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Hello everyone.

This week and next is when the various local teams are having their tryouts. It is common in this area to try out for several teams to ensure you find a home. My question is about the etiquette to handle this week.

If you receive an offer for a spot on a roster what is a reasonable amount of time to accept or decline. For instance if a manager says “please let us know soon”. What is considered appropriate. The trouble is that we’d like to try out for a few before making a decision. There are many considerations to weigh. But in doing that I certainly don’t want to offend anyone or make their lives harder.

Also while I do have a few questions to ask about the teams philosophy on various topics is it appropriste to ask how the numbers are looking as far as even being able to form a team?

Thanks very much. I get that this may be a sensitive topic but if anyone that is more experienced could chime in we’d greatly appreciate it.
 
Apr 28, 2014
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The best thing to do is to be upfront during the first conversation.
"Sally is going to tryout for 4 teams, and we plan to make a decision on any offers after all 4 tryouts have been completed. We plan to finish the final tryout on 8/14 and will have an answer to any teams with interest on 8/15. Is this okay for you? We don't want to hold you up but want to make sure that we attend all of the tryouts."

Saying the above will take some pressure off when they make the offer and give you 24 hours to decide. Some teams will still try to pressure you but if you tell them the above before your DD tries out then it will at least set up the conversation later.

Good luck
 
Jul 4, 2013
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By all means ask every question that you have. There may be questions that can't be answered at this point, but I'd expect the coach to talk through where they are in the process at this point. If you have any doubt about numbers, definitely ask. The coach may have it under control, or the team may be blowing up. It happens, but it isn't a question to avoid. Our coaches love talking about our team. The nightmare is a kid they want turning them down based on a concern they haven't had a chance to discuss.
 
Jun 12, 2015
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Yes, just be up front about it. This is what our coach tells people: take all the time you need, but in the meantime we have 2 more tryouts & I'm going to keep trying to fill that spot. I can't guarantee it'll still be open.
 
Jul 16, 2008
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Yes, just be up front about it. This is what our coach tells people: take all the time you need, but in the meantime we have 2 more tryouts & I'm going to keep trying to fill that spot. I can't guarantee it'll still be open.

That's exactly how we handle it
 
Feb 4, 2015
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If playing a specific position(s) is a priority, see how many kids already on the roster play that position, and if any of them are coaches kid.
 

ian

Jun 11, 2015
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Ask them questions that you want answered.

No need to pour your heart out to them on the first date.
 

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