Time to say good bye

obbay said:

Thank you Amy and Everyone, whether you know what to say or not, I certainly don't except to say thank you for all your support which really does make a difference .

Meghan Burnett Obituary - Wakefield, Massachusetts - McDonald Funeral Home

you have been like an extended family to me (and indirectly, both DDs) so this was the first place I went when I didn't know what to do.

earlier this year DD and I were talking about her softball future and that I was thinking about coaching again. she totally encouraged me to get back into it. she has since told me many times that I was one of the best coaches, that I know more than everyone else around here and that the players always loved playing for me. so i will join many of her friends who have have posted on facebook- "I play for you now".

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Obbay, I’ve already offered condolences such as they are though no amount of condolences can ever make up for your loss; but if they give you any small measure of comfort at this time I am happy. I don’t mean to derail your thread or hijack it anyway and if I do so in any way you have my deepest apologies but I feel the need to express some thoughts that possibly others are feeling at this time.

I never met you or Meghan, never saw her play, never even exchanged PMs with you; but felt I got to know you and her through DFP in some small way over these past few years. So thank you for sharing a slice of your life with us. When I saw the title of your post the other day I thought it was simply another post of a DD hanging up her spikes and moving on to another phase of her life. I always find those bitter sweet as I know a day will come all too soon when my own DD hangs up her spikes. But reading your post and the actual content hit me hard in a way I didn’t think could happen for someone I knew so very little in real life.

We had practice the night I read your post with the sad news and I went through it in a fog. I kept thinking, “what if it was one of my players, these young ladies here today in front of me?” my thoughts reached out to my own daughter who was traveling on the east coast and thought “what if it was her?” I thought back on my own son’s surgery when he was just 17 for a ruptured appendix which required 6 hours of surgery and a 2 week hospital stay on IV antibiotics and think back how easily it could have been him. And I thought about my DS and older DD both of whom were recently involved in separate car accidents, the first question was “are you OK”, to which thankfully the answer was “yes, no one was hurt.” They say any surgery is dangerous, even routine surgery, but you comfort yourself beforehand with the odds being so low and think, that can’t happen to me. But for you it did happen and for that I am profoundly sad, my heart aches for you and your family. Your DD obviously meant so much to you and you loved her so much it seems so unfair that she should be taken at such a young age with such a bright future ahead of her snatched away far too soon.

And again while I don’t really know you or your DD at all, I feel as though a friend has had a deep loss and I grieve for you and with you. Thank you again for sharing this even though it is terribly sad and must have been very difficult for you to share here. It has given me a perspective to look at my kids in a new light and is an event that will last with me a long time. And once again let me express my deepest condolences and also my profound thanks to you in this very sad time. Truly cherish every day as though it may be your last, because indeed it may be.

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Obbay,

I do hope you get back into coaching to honor your daughter. I know it will be tough, but do it. Just got back from doing my traditional two hour lunch to watch 16 girls I've coached or help run clinics for over the years play their first games of Nor Cal A metros on 5 different teams. I managed to hold it together until I got back into the car, but still trying to pull it together to get some work done this afternoon. Coaching my DD's team is going to be tough this weekend.

God Bless you and your family.

#weplayformeg

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