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Aug 19, 2015
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There are probably multiple players in the league with ADHD and you don't even know it because it's managed well. I'm a child psychologist, and working with kids with ADHD is something I do regularly. At age 10, assuming the parents have had her properly diagnosed, you shouldn't be seeing such impulsive behavior. The child should be learning self-control skills by this point. We all have our moments, granted, but throwing things as you describe is not acceptable behavior, ADHD or not. Were I the coach, I would sit down with the parents and tell them that I recommend they focus on getting her help with impulse control and anger management and then try softball again. Until she is better able to withhold her own impulses, she could hurt herself or someone else unintentionally. Keep in mind that meds may not solve the problem. Most stimulant medication will be out of her system for afternoon/evening games (although she could have meds in her system for weekend daytime games).
 
Oct 11, 2010
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Chicago, IL
We are working with the parents, something needs to change before they are allowed back. I did not even stay at a holiday express so I am not recommending anything. Suggestion for meds not from me.

Only suggestion I have is parent on field with them which I am getting trounced on, not just this board. Hate people with opinions, I only posted so posters would support me. :)
 
Jun 19, 2014
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Raleigh,NC
I give credit to anyone willing to work with kids. It can be difficult but also rewarding. I know that I mentioned about D having autism, my oldest son was also ADHD that played sports. Not an easy task considering he picked flowers in the outfield, blurted out random things, disrupted the game to give the ball to a little girl that was crying, had to wait for him to stop picking his nose for team picture, then pouted because he had to stop picking.OF course yelling while at bat, "Are you beating my sister again?" because she was upset about not playing ball with her brother. Not fun but the coach did a great job dealing with him. I felt bad for the coach but we talked to him about why certain behaviors were not appropriate. We had to eventually take him off the team because he wasn't as mature as the other kids his age and I felt it wasn't fair to his team mates. He did play sports when he was older and had better self control.
 
Jan 30, 2018
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SE Michigan
My son and daughter both have ADD but never acted out by throwing a bat (purposely) at anyone. Baseball/Softball can be a very hard sport for them to play especially at a young age (<10u) because of all the breaks in the action. My daughter wanted to quit playing all together after playing 2 years of rec because practices were boring and games where a walk/snooze fest. She decided to try travel, thank goodness, and now at the 12u level, she loves it. My son just turned 9 and is getting better about on field behavior each year. He started at tee ball and it was tough. He would constantly play in the dirt and pick flowers, put his glove on his head, swing his arms around, do little dances, etc. He takes meds in very low doses and only for school, never on weekends. He is learning to cope and gets better and better at controlling his compulsive urges. We are strict and don't let him use his ADD as an excuse for bad behavior. His worst on-the -field act was once in his first year of coach pitch he was playing CF which was basically right behind 2nd base. He leaned over, took his hat off, filled it with dirt and gravel, and dumped it on the baserunner at 2nd base, who was a kid he knew from school (also the biggest puss in the class). I was pissed at him but not near as pissed as the baserunner's mom. You would have thought he killed the poor kid. She was stomping around on the sidelines like a chicken with her head cutoff, she wanted my kid tossed from the game. Now I have to see this woman all the freakin time at school and she always gives me a pissed off look.
 

obbay

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Aug 21, 2008
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Boston, MA
Doesnt sound like ADD or ADHD to me.
It sounds more like a player i had with aspergers that we discovered after she was on our team and having behavioral problems. I felt the parents shouldve told the league and they should let us know ahead of time, but at least they told me. (I think she might have been recently diagnosed )Fortunately, she didnt usually get violent and when she did it usually involved throwing something, shouting and crying - don't recall her throwing anything at another player but she might have. she was sometimes a little wild, a short outburst followed by a longer period of stewing. She wasnt really a team player. Players were polite to her but not friends, but honestly she was odd.her outburst would startle if not scare them, but it was always after striking out or a bad call. i knew her from U8 thru U16 LL and even though the other kids (and adults) would avoid her, whenever i saw her Off the field, she always had a big smile for me and would talk my ear off whether I had time to talk or not :D and It still made me feel good.

She worked hard to control herself and over time became better at it. Still a bit nutty, but much less “different” which is what makes everyone uncomfortable. She graduates in a couple weeks and will be attending college in the fall.

Back to the OP- when told of her aspergers diagnosis, (she was near the end of her LL career) i asked her father if it might help to have him join us as an AC, but he said he thought it might cause more problems than it would solve as she was more inclined to listen to me than fight with him. Mom and or Dad were at every game if we or she needed anything.
 
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Apr 23, 2014
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East Jabib
Doesnt sound like ADD or ADHD to me.
It sounds more like a player i had with aspergers that we discovered after she was on our team and having behavioral problems...

She worked hard to control herself and over time became better at it. Still a bit nutty, but much less “different” which is what makes everyone uncomfortable. She graduates in a couple weeks and will be attending college in the fall.

Nutty is a bit insensitive if she’s truly Asperger’s. Not trying to be politically correct but coming from a parent of a specials needs child I think that’s a pretty crappy way to describe a child who navigates the world differently than the majority of the population.


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obbay

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Aug 21, 2008
2,199
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Boston, MA
Sorry if i offended anyone.
I was going to say “eccentric” but she is a nut the way many of us are “nutty”, as it is more of a personality description so i lumped her in with us. We need more nutty people.
I'm sorry if that was rude.
 
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May 1, 2018
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I have a kid with really bad ADD (baseball) and he is one of my best players. Won't shut up ever and will make mental mistakes but super athletic. Never has any behavior problems.
 

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