A comment [MENTION=938]Cannonball[/MENTION] said in the thread "The Moment of Truth",
"She loved the game but did not want anything to do with college ball. When she finally told her parents, it was like she fell even more in love with the high school experience. With no pressure on her, her stats improved and she became the team leader I though she should have been earlier. I talked to her this past summer and, for her, she made the right choice. She made the decision before she started to hate the game."
https://www.discussfastpitch.com/being-softball-parent/32935-moment-truth.html
Brought to mind that DD1 might be so pressuring herself so much, because she wants to play college ball, that she is getting in her own way. There are times she will start yelling at herself when she practices alone, or with me. She is a catcher, and when practicing throw downs, yells if she is not perfectly on target. She will get upset if she is not hitting well off the T. She gets upset with me that I cannot give her infield practice the way she wants it. Because of a disability I cannot swing a bat, and she starts blaming me that I cannot give her the infield practice she wants.
She plays well in games, but her coaches have told me she doesn't have the self confidence yet to really hit the ball with the potential they see in her.
As Cannonball said, "with no pressure, her stats improved." I am wondering how, and even if, I could help her find a way to take some of the pressure off of herself.
I believe I am putting as little pressure on her as I can. I let her decide if and when she wants to practice. I have told her many times, if tomorrow she gives up softball, it would be ok with me. I would miss it, but I would be fine.
"She loved the game but did not want anything to do with college ball. When she finally told her parents, it was like she fell even more in love with the high school experience. With no pressure on her, her stats improved and she became the team leader I though she should have been earlier. I talked to her this past summer and, for her, she made the right choice. She made the decision before she started to hate the game."
https://www.discussfastpitch.com/being-softball-parent/32935-moment-truth.html
Brought to mind that DD1 might be so pressuring herself so much, because she wants to play college ball, that she is getting in her own way. There are times she will start yelling at herself when she practices alone, or with me. She is a catcher, and when practicing throw downs, yells if she is not perfectly on target. She will get upset if she is not hitting well off the T. She gets upset with me that I cannot give her infield practice the way she wants it. Because of a disability I cannot swing a bat, and she starts blaming me that I cannot give her the infield practice she wants.
She plays well in games, but her coaches have told me she doesn't have the self confidence yet to really hit the ball with the potential they see in her.
As Cannonball said, "with no pressure, her stats improved." I am wondering how, and even if, I could help her find a way to take some of the pressure off of herself.
I believe I am putting as little pressure on her as I can. I let her decide if and when she wants to practice. I have told her many times, if tomorrow she gives up softball, it would be ok with me. I would miss it, but I would be fine.