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May 15, 2016
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A new girl joined my DDs' TB team. She is clearly overweight. My DDs pointed out she never tucks in her jersey. I told them she is probably self-conscious about her weight.

Anyway, another girl's mother told me this girl's parents wanted to pull her from the team, they were feeling she was not getting enough game time overall, and apparently even more upset she was not getting more time in the circle.

This mother told me the girl refused to leave the team. Apparently she had been on two different teams last year. On the first team her teammates actively taunted her because of her weight and made her life so miserable she left. She went to a second team last spring. She was not picked on by those teammates, but she was completely ignored by them.

It seems she is so happy being on my DDs' team, where she was warmly welcomed and befriended as an equal teammate, she told her parents she insists on staying with the team.
 
Oct 5, 2017
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Western Indiana
After working with many student athletes from elementary to high school age there is only one reason for this.

Great Parenting! Kudos to you and all the other parents on your team. You should be proud of yourselves as much as you are of your DD's.
 
Jul 16, 2013
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Pennsylvania
DD is also overweight. She has a thyroid issue and takes medication for it, but it is much harder for her to manage her weight than the average person. She has lost some weight in the past 12 months, but only through a great deal of hard work on her part in regards to exercise and diet. We have learned that she will probably always be above the average weight for her age. It just is what it is. When she was younger, she dealt with a lot of rude comments from other class mates, but has always found refuge in softball. Especially her travel team. Most of her closest friends are from the TB team. It's great that your team has given this young lady that same type of safe place where she feels comfortable! As a parent that has been through this, I cannot tell you how grateful I have been when my DD found similar support.
 
May 15, 2016
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After working with many student athletes from elementary to high school age there is only one reason for this.

Great Parenting! Kudos to you and all the other parents on your team. You should be proud of yourselves as much as you are of your DD's.

Thanks, sincerely, that means a lot.

I also credit the woman who runs the organization. My DD played for her 12u and 14u last year. She seems to pick not only quality players, but good people.
 
May 15, 2016
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She found refuge in softball. Especially her travel team. Most of her closest friends are from the TB team. It's great that your team has given this young lady that same type of safe place where she feels comfortable! As a parent that has been through this, I cannot tell you how grateful I have been when my DD found similar support.

So nice to hear your daughter found such a team.
 
May 24, 2013
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So Cal
It pisses me off to hear that girls have experiences like what was described on her former teams. There's no place for that in this game.
 
Jun 11, 2013
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I've made some mistakes in where I've put DD. I think the only time she ever didn't play every inning was when she was 12 on a 14U team and even then she always started on Sundays, but i failed to notice the most important thing and that was if she was enjoying the team. I give the Mom credit for realizing this and leaving her DD.
 
May 24, 2013
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So Cal
Early this year, we had a dad get pissy that his kid wasn't playing as much as he thought she should, and pulled her off the team in the middle of a tournament. She left in tears. Thankfully, the dad realized that the team meant more to his DD than just position and playing time, and that he was being an @$$hole. She returned, and he sincerely apologized to the coaches and parents for his behavior. The girl continued the hard work she was already doing, and developed into our best OF and a top-3 batter. That team - big, little, short, tall - had the best bond of friendship between players I have been around. It was pretty awesome.

Unfortunately, parents blew it up after Nationals, and the team completely folded.
 
May 15, 2016
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I give the Mom credit for realizing this and leaving her DD.

From what I heard the girl had a difficult time convincing her parents, seems they were determined she should be the star on a different team. Thank goodness the daughter won out.

Her parents are not the warmest, most team spirited parents on the sidelines. Seems the daughter has risen above her raising, and has turned into a class act. My DD loves pitching when this girl is playing first. My DD says this girl gives my DD the most encouragement from anyone on the infield, while she is pitching.
 
Jun 8, 2016
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Her parents are not the warmest, most team spirited parents on the sidelines.

Good to hear that your team has handled this well. Regarding what I quoted, some parents would rather just watch the game and forego being cheerleaders. I, for one, take my chair and sit
in left field so I don't have to hear the other parents comments/cheerleading..:rolleyes:
 

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