Parents. Always ruining shirt.
A nice group of girls
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Parents. Always ruining shirt.
I feel this on a deep, spiritual level. The teams that implode do so because of parents 90% of the time. I am so thankful that the team described above is welcoming and friendly, and gave this girl a new softball family! I have found our softball family is quite amazing, and I am so appreciative of the bond the girls have.
I sit in left field so I don't have to hear the other parents comments/cheerleading..
There are cheerleaders, and then there is something else entirely. I almost always stand as close to the backstop as possible (without getting in anyone's way) one of my DDs is a pitcher, the other a catcher. The extent of my cheerleading is clapping and an occasional, emphatic "Yeah" on an especially good play.
That being said, left field is probably a wise place to be to avoid the aggravation of hearing from the "something else entirely."
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I figured it worked for my father for 10 years so I might as well do it to. Plus nobody can hear my muttering out there
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Unfortunately, the game has zero to do with it. A softball team is a microcosm of the world we live in. To that end it says more about the individual players on the teams rather than the sport itself. As the OP stated the girl in the OP never felt included in the other teams. She may not be getting the playing time, but she feels accepted.
This could be any activity a child participates in from sports to drama to band to.... You name it.
Valid point. That said, I have zero tolerance for players being disrespectful to their teammates.
The irony is she is getting playing time, just not enough to please her parents. I get the feeling her parents want her to be the star of the team, and she just wants play the game and enjoy herself. Glad she is winning that battle.
Wish all coaches were like you. I've seen the team she came from, I clearly got the sense winning is the most important thing for that team.
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At the beginning of each season I have a meeting with the girls and the parents. I tell them there are only two things I demand of the kids. The first is their best effort. The second is they respect their teammates in ALL aspects. On the field, in the dugout, on social media or any other situation. I tell them they do not have to be besties with everyone on the team, but there will be no disparaging anyone. Anything else is up to the players and how much they want to help make the team succeed.
What do you do about a parent who does not act in a respectful manner. My DDs' team had one game against an older team, and they were thoroughly out played. They tensed up and started making many errors, it was ugly. One mother was so upset about losing she said, "I don't know why I had to get up early in the morning to watch this shirt show." This was not atypical behavior from her, it was probably just the worst.
