- Feb 15, 2016
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I think a lot of people are missing the point not following the coaches sign or direction IN GAME is not acceptable.
It sounds like she was told to take the first pitch and didn't one time. It happens. Kids miss steal signs, kids miss bunt signs, kids run when told not to. Some coaches yell and others take the girls to the side and comment to her. I saw a coach completely crush two of his best players on a first year 14U team by screaming at them when one didn't get a bunt down and the other missed a steal sign. Those girls were WORTHLESS for the rest of the day and the coach had no idea he was the reason.
Some kids don't take to that kind of coaching. Others adjust over time and get used to it but in the mean time it can be a painful journey. Life is too short for softball to not be fun. In the meantime parents can help by backing WAY off and just being supportive. You need to separate yourselves from her performance and realize that you are not helping at all by adding to her stress. My DDs had their own struggles when moving up an age group or a level and it is hard to back off. If I could do it all over again I would be a lot more laid back. The yelling coach won't change so if Peanut DD continues to play tight and not adjust (after you back WAY off) I would look for a new team before spring season.