just felt like whining...

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obbay

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DD is on a new team and had her first tournament this weekend. had a great day, last inning of last game on Saturday playing SS, went back for a texas leaguer, calling it all the way, dove into the CF who did not call her off. got another concussion (probably). CF felt trrible and wasn't intending to go for it when DD called it.

After last concussion, Dr told wife that one more concussion and he won't clear her for any more HS activities (not limited to sports)
and she has finals this week and her head isn't clear enough to read.

Also DD was selected to participate in a foreign exchange study opportunity next year that she has been all fired up about. Unfortunately DW doesn't want to "have strangers in the house" so she's not interested in supporting it.

DD does not want to return to the HS Varsity Softball team/Drama Club next (Senior) year so DW insisted that she speak to one of the coaches (a long time coach and friend) before DW will give her an answer regarding Foreign exchange. after a long tearful exchange, she gets off the phone and bawls "If I don't play on the team next year the coach (head coach, not our friend) will lose his job!" she told DW that she did as she was asked and coach said this was a great opportunity for her but the team would hate to lose her (which is all true).

DW waits until the last possible minute and says she can't go.

things kind of stink right now.
 
Nov 29, 2009
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after a long tearful exchange, she gets off the phone and bawls "If I don't play on the team next year the coach (head coach, not our friend) will lose his job!" she told DW that she did as she was asked and coach said this was a great opportunity for her but the team would hate to lose her (which is all true).

What an asinine coach/friend. He should not be telling a teenage girl something like that. If a coaches job depends on one player the team has more issues than your DD.

DW waits until the last possible minute and says she can't go.

Can understand the DW's feelings. Some women can get very tense with the thought of change to their nest.

Hope your DD recovers from her concussion soon. Best of luck to her.
 
Oct 11, 2010
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We need a whining room. :)

Posts like this reinforces how good we have it, hope things work out OK for your family.

What adult would put that on an 17 or 18 kid? DD would be gone in a second, I would play the dad card.
 
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Feb 4, 2015
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Very sorry to hear about DD's concussion. I hope her recovery goes well and maybe the teachers will be understanding during finals.

Regarding foreign exchange, I've heard some nightmare stories where the kids who come over are uncontrollable and don't follow the household rules, and don't even necessarily form friendships with the host's family kids. It's unfortunate that families can't interview the exchange student and set expectations with the other family before agreeing to the arrangement.
 

obbay

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I couldn't believe this guy who treats my DD like his own, would sink so low as to say there were jobs on the line! she loves the coach as a person but really doesn't like or respect him as a coach. she thinks he would be screwed if he loses this job. I told her if he loses his job, it's because he earned it! (what kind of adult hides behind a kid!)

7's-
DD had already been matched up with the other kid both of whom had read about the kids in the program and picked each other.
the teacher who runs this says its some kind of Honors school and they've ha excellent experiences on both ends since they started this 8 or 9 years ago.
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also, got an update from DD- sounds like mom may have given in at the last minute- but Dad's life is going to be hell this summer as the entire house gets fixed up for the visiting dignitary.
so at least there will be one thing to look forward to in the event that she is prevented from participating in sports or activities
 
Jul 19, 2014
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I wonder, are there sports related student exchange programs? For example, a girl who plays softball in some foreign land gets a host family in the US with a softball player, and can play on the American HS softball team. That would be a treat for everyone!

One reason I mention that. DS' college has an exchange program with a college in Germany. DS is on the rowing team, and rowing is a very popular sport in Germany, except colleges there don't have rowing teams. It is really cool because every year there is some student from Germany who rows as a hobby and gets to row with an American college team. These young men love the experience.
 
Nov 26, 2010
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Very sorry to hear about DD's concussion. I hope her recovery goes well and maybe the teachers will be understanding during finals.

Regarding foreign exchange, I've heard some nightmare stories where the kids who come over are uncontrollable and don't follow the household rules, and don't even necessarily form friendships with the host's family kids. It's unfortunate that families can't interview the exchange student and set expectations with the other family before agreeing to the arrangement.

On the other hand I have seen several absolute home runs with foreign exchange. I know a few people who have kept in contact with the kids who have come over and even return visits after the kids grew up. A friend of ours their son wound up marrying a girl (4 years later) who was an exchange student. My son went to Barcelona as a college student and he still keeps in touch with his host family.
 
Feb 4, 2015
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On the other hand I have seen several absolute home runs with foreign exchange. I know a few people who have kept in contact with the kids who have come over and even return visits after the kids grew up. A friend of ours their son wound up marrying a girl (4 years later) who was an exchange student. My son went to Barcelona as a college student and he still keeps in touch with his host family.

You're very correct. There are probably more good stories than bad ones. I was more trying to point out that obbay's DW may have some good reasons for not wanting to deal with it, although it does sound like a great oppty. I should have added "your mileage may vary"!!
 
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I can't believe a coach would say that to a kid. Give up a chance to go try something great so that I can keep my job as a coach. Just asking, but did DW not want to
do it because she would have to do all the driving around,etc. I know my DW did an exchange year in Costa Rica and still has friends from there. Sports are fun but you
are only in High School once.
 

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