Its not 'daddy ball' if positions and playing time is based off of attitude and skill level like on your DD'S team. On DD'S travel team all three coaches have kids on the team. The travel coaches are honest and also darn good at coaching. They put players in the positions that make the team successful, they don't play favorites.
I haven't seen one travel team that didn't have atleast one parent coaching. Many times the coaches DD'S are the best players on the team and genuinely deserve that starting SS position. There is nothing wrong with this. In fact it's very good.
I don't consider our situation "daddy ball" which is why I used the quotes.