Attitude off the field question

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Aug 19, 2013
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So I have a 13u travel team most of the players I have had for over a year. Some go to the same school and player basketball together. 1 player has no discipline at home and I have been able to take care of attitude issues with success with her. Great player. Basketball the other day is almost over, 1 practice left, 1 game left. They have practice and we do to. One of the girls who is on the bball team but does not play, told the coach she had softball and would have to leave a little early, the other girl said " well I don't I will be here the whole time". In front of team and coach went off on the girl who has to leave early. This made her very upset. Question, would any of u address this? How would u handle it? That bball coach I know and she doesn't not address any attitude issues, she's as bad as the players.


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Dec 2, 2013
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As others have said before on this forum. Not your circus, not your monkeys. These issues will continue to arise and these kids will need to get used to it and learn to handle it on their own. When it comes to middle/high school sports it gets brutal. When that particular sport is in season, the players belong to that coach until the season is over. Your responsibility is to the girls on your team when you have them. But you can use teachable moments that bleed over to other activities off the field to get your point across.
 

rdbass

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I would tell the player that school bball comes first and she should have stayed for the whole practice. Since you said 'she doesn't play' the bball practice might help.
 
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I would tell the player that school bball comes first and she should have stayed for the whole practice. Since you said 'she doesn't play' the bball practice might help.

I had similar thoughts. I wasn't sure if the kid with attitude is the one ditching her in season practice or the one calling her out on it.
 

rdbass

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I had similar thoughts. I wasn't sure if the kid with attitude is the one ditching her in season practice or the one calling her out on it.

I guessing the kid with the supposed 'attitude' is the one calling out the 'dither'. I was being sarcastic because I believe the poster feels it's except-able to ditch an in season school sport for an out of season non-school sport.
 

sluggers

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The girl signed up to be on the bball team. Whether she plays or not is irrelevant. She made a commitment. She should be there for the whole game and skip softball practice. School sports take priority over travel.

As to the coach--not my circus, not my monkeys. I wasn't there, and I can't judge his/her conduct.
 
Aug 19, 2013
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No I don't think it is ok to ditch a in sport practice. I haven't told them that. Actually I told her today she said attend the whole practice. I just don't have a environment where it's ok to call out another player. I'm afraid this will create tension on our team. Was just wondering if/anything anyone has experienced or dealt with.


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Greenmonsters

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No I don't think it is ok to ditch a in sport practice. I haven't told them that. Actually I told her today she said attend the whole practice. I just don't have a environment where it's ok to call out another player. I'm afraid this will create tension on our team. Was just wondering if/anything anyone has experienced or dealt with.


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I don't have a problem with girls expecting their teammates to be accountable for their team-related actions. Verbalizing it should be the coach's responsibility, but if they're failing to do so..... FWIW, IME holding yourself and expecting your teammates to be held accountable and to hold you accountable can create a very positive and motivating dynamic.
 
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Let's turn it around. Let's pretend something happened at one of your softball practices that the bball coach didn't like. How would you like the bball coach to address it?
 
Oct 19, 2009
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It's well documented that playing multiple sports is beneficial and taking a break from your top sport (softball) can also be beneficial and healthy from a physical and mental standpoint. I think it's great they're paying basketball. I agree with others...she never should have left early. She signed up and made a commitment, the in-season sport, and SCHOOL team should be her priority....and she should WANT to stay.

Can't comment on coach because many form an opinion on misperceptions. Yeah she may be a hard rear, and perhaps rough. But there are many coaches like that who are also very good coaches, who continually win, that players actually respect and respond to. Some kids need a coach like that. Again, I'm just commenting without any first hand knowledge or exposure of this coach so I really can't judge.

In the end I would have told the girl that left that she should have stayed and she should never leave basketball early for softball....you'll have plenty of time with her soon enough.
 

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