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Mar 26, 2016
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There is no support with the team players all being a 1 big family team.The Girls dont respect the head coach at all and dislike him, the head coaches daughter gets away with what ever she wants. The head coach lets othetr players play on other teams the girls dont bond together,they dont all do things together.The head coach does not want any help with his assistants its his way or the high way.Not that he isnt telling them how to play the game which sometimes is confusing but the head coach even will tell the team there not good enough to pitch when the pitcher has been pitching a long time and is in high school.lets just say its bad.But the Orginization is excellent.this team is a 13u team.Any thoughts on what to do . personaly my daughter does not want to leave but its making her down depressed.Any advice.I can almost bet the team will not come back after the season is over and will move on. Need thoughts advice.Should the parents who have got together go to the main boss or have a team meating and let it all out there. We have some very good ball players on the team but theres nothing there.
 
Mar 26, 2016
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Orinization is outstanding but kinda 1 bad apple I think A team parent meating might need to take place.But the orginzation and the other teams are supet run great
 
May 24, 2013
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Orinization is outstanding but kinda 1 bad apple I think A team parent meating might need to take place.But the orginzation and the other teams are supet run great

Is there another team in the same organization that would be a fit for your DD? Even if the organization is great, if my DD's team is a wreck, and she's unhappy with the situation, I would have a hard time justifying keeping her in that situation.
 
Mar 26, 2016
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There is but I would have to wait until the whole next season is done then do try outs again
 
Apr 12, 2013
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honestly....Love your post, you are asking the right questions. I call this GREAT parenting.

forget about everyone else for a moment, the coach, the other players and the other parents. Put all of your focus on maximizing your DD's experience (this includes the experience offered on and off the field). I speculate you already know the answer.
Not looking for you to run to a new team, just looking for you to find the best fit. You don't get this year back (or any year, they are WAYYYY too important to "wait it out"). I sure would not wait around if in January I know it's not the best fit.

I will give the same note at College selection time. Forget everyone else, find your DD's best fit.
 
Jul 16, 2013
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Just curious what you hope the parent's meeting will accomplish? How will the coach react to such a meeting? If parents decide to speak directly to the organization, what is the expected outcome? If the coach is retained, would you expect the situation to improve (I would doubt it)? If the coach is removed, who would replace him? How is the coach's relationship with the organization itself? For example, if this coach is brothers with the vice president of the organization, I doubt you will get very far. My personal opinion is that if it is bad enough for several families to consider something this drastic, you all already know what to do.

FYI> These are all rhetorical questions. My advice is to think about each of the questions before you proceed.
 
Oct 3, 2011
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At 13U, you, and especially your DD are on the cusp of the most important years in recruiting for college SB. So my question to you is, is your DD wanting to play college SB? I understand your dilemma but this is answer is important. If the organization (not the HC) has a very good reputation of getting the girls recruited, then you might want to stick it out just to find the right fit for next year. If the answer is Meh,,,,maybe....or no, then you need to move on because this is nothing more than what we like to call "Daddy Ball." If the answer is "yes," then you might want to stick it out in the hopes of finding the right fit next year with another team within this organization. If this won't be possible, since many organizations in our area refuse to recruit from other teams within the same organization, then again, move on. There's no need for your daughter to be miserable for an entire year if the hopes of being recruited are nonexistent.

By the same token, you will hear many people expound the virtues of keeping a commitment. While I agree with this sentiment wholeheartedly, there's also the thought of keeping the commitment to the detriment of your DD. You're the one that has to make that determination. If you think, in the long run, staying with this team will hurt her chances of being recruited, then get the heck out! If it won't, then, let her learn some life lessons about becoming a responsible person by owning her decision to join the team. Maybe she can learn a little patience and learn to do a little research on the side about what might be the best decision for her not only regarding a team, but life in general.
 
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Nov 26, 2010
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There is no support with the team players all being a 1 big family team.The Girls dont respect the head coach at all and dislike him, the head coaches daughter gets away with what ever she wants. The head coach lets othetr players play on other teams the girls dont bond together,they dont all do things together.The head coach does not want any help with his assistants its his way or the high way.Not that he isnt telling them how to play the game which sometimes is confusing but the head coach even will tell the team there not good enough to pitch when the pitcher has been pitching a long time and is in high school.lets just say its bad.But the Orginization is excellent.this team is a 13u team.Any thoughts on what to do . personaly my daughter does not want to leave but its making her down depressed.Any advice.I can almost bet the team will not come back after the season is over and will move on. Need thoughts advice.Should the parents who have got together go to the main boss or have a team meating and let it all out there. We have some very good ball players on the team but theres nothing there.

Quincy is that you?
 
Mar 26, 2016
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At 13U, you, and especially your DD are on the cusp of the most important years in recruiting for college SB. So my question to you is, is your DD wanting to play college SB? I understand your dilemma but this is answer is important. If the organization (not the HC) has a very good reputation of getting the girls recruited, then you might want to stick it out just to find the right fit for next year. If the answer is Meh,,,,maybe....or no, then you need to move on because this is nothing more than what we like to call "Daddy Ball." If the answer is "yes," then you might want to stick it out in the hopes of finding the right fit next year with another team within this organization. If this won't be possible, since many organizations in our area refuse to recruit from other teams within the same organization, then again, move on. There's no need for your daughter to be miserable for an entire year if the hopes of being recruited are nonexistent.

By the same token, you will hear many people expound the virtues of keeping a commitment. While I agree with this sentiment wholeheartedly, there's also the thought of keeping the commitment to the detriment of your DD. You're the one that has to make that determination. If you think, in the long run, staying with this team will hurt her chances of being recruited, then get the heck out! If it won't, then, let her learn some life lessons about becoming a responsible person by owning her decision to join the team. Maybe she can learn a little patience and learn to do a little research on the side about what might be the best decision for her not only regarding a team, but life in general.




Yes my Daughter wants to play Div. 1 Softball, Yes the Organization helps recruit the girls to play College Ball and many have went on to play Div.1 Yes I believe In there program and she will play out the year but come time to tryout next season she will most likely 99.999999% sure go on the other team.Unless The HC quits and the new HC picks the right girls to bring on then I will see what options are open . YOCOACH very good advice appreciate it and others who have replied. As far as the meeting if that was to happen I know the majority of the parents aren't happy and if the HC see's this hears what everyone has to say he will quit and someone new will come in. The HC now there relationship isn't solid with the organization. And the other team would be extremely happy to have her skills her bat her fielding her everything.She has worked so hard to get where she is at and I will not let anyone put her down or any other girl on the team down its disgusting to see how some HC do this with there ego like there shirt don't stink.
 

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