The talk I was hoping wouldn't happen

Last night DD got a letter from her #1 choice to play softball and they decided not to offer her a spot. This was a couple weeks after she performed fantastic in front of them during a team workout and they said they were impressed. They did come to see her play this weekend and she was stressed but nothing really happened in that game defensively and she didn't hit well until after they left. It was an emotional conversation but she said that she no longer wanted to play in college. She's had offers from 2 top 5 D3 schools and a top 20 D2 school but they are small schools and she's not interested. She said she's been looking at schools for softball and not for academics and the stress has been ruining the sport for her. She wants to go to a bigger school and things never worked out for her to play at that level.
I'm really proud that she's overcome a lot of obstacles to start on one of the best teams in the state that has 4 current mid level D1 players on it. I'm feeling a bit depressed over the whole thing but it's her choice and I don't think she'll change her mind. She said she feels like a weight has been lifted off her shoulders and wants to just play for fun this year and end her career on a good note. I had asked if she wanted to quit the TB team and she said no way. I don't like how expensive it is though and we are on the road at least 4 hours a week for practice but DW says to let her have her fun.
I heard her singing this morning in the bathroom so she must be feeling good which is what is important. I on the other hand...

We are a couple of years behind you on this journey. While it has been a mixed bag of pride, jubilation, and stress, I wouldn't change a moment of it. The time we have spent together (and hopefully continue) has been more valuable to me than anything else in the world. But ultimately the important goals are hers and not mine. It sounds like your DD is handling the news pretty well, and that should be reassuring for you. It is amazing how our strength helps them when they are younger, but then they will quickly return the favor and help us. I wish you both the best of luck!! You should be very proud.

She might take one of the other offers or get a late D1 offer and change her tune come Spring....the fact that she hasn't sworn off the dirt addiction is a good thing.

BTDT and still in middle of it. I think DD has same POV as your DD...the minute a D1 school is showing interest (one that she is actually interested in), her eyes light up and she just shines. But anything else? The deal is off. Hoping that there are some surprises in store for y'all...and I am betting there will be. And ITA on the keeping TB...it is just too damned expensive ($$ and time), but it is such a valuable time with your kid. Good luck...I almost believe that it will work out for both of you.

My wife is kind of happy about it...She's already planning a vacation for next summer and says if she misses a tournament...oh well!

Thx for Sharing.... Nice to see what others are facing on the Journey. Hoping it starts going Your way

Oh, sorry to hear. She'll find other stuff that she loves and enjoys and it will open doors that she didn't see coming. So I think all is well, but I do feel your pain.

What year is she in school? Seems I might've asked that before.

I went to a big school. Wish I could go back in time and go to a smaller one. There's probably no convincing them when they get something in their heads though.

CoogansBluff said:

Oh, sorry to hear. She'll find other stuff that she loves and enjoys and it will open doors that she didn't see coming. So I think all is well, but I do feel your pain.

What year is she in school? Seems I might've asked that before.

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She's a senior...
She talked to a local girl that played a year at a Major D-1 for one year and she told DD to play co-ed slow pitch if she really wants to have fun. She said her one year of college ball was hell and now travels all over the US playing slow pitch. DD also said she just may play in the school's rec program. She keeps texting me schools she's interested in and they are all Major D-1 schools in the south.

She's had offers from 2 top 5 D3 schools and a top 20 D2 school but they are small schools and she's not interested

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My DD committed to a small DIII school because it was 'small'. Has around 1500 students. DD had offers from a couple of DII & DIII schools that were 'big'. DD liked the small DIII school better. Said it felt like her high school. Also by talking to the softball players and other sport players she was told that alot of students attended games and knew their names. May be if your DD visited some of the 'smaller' schools she might change her mind about softball.
Either way your DD will attend college and will be successful. I wish her the best.