I would feel crazier if almost all of the parents didn't feel the same way. At the end of the day yeah it's 10u so who cares my daughter shouldn't have to deal with him too much longer. My daughter got offered a spot in the same team but 12u in the spring and a 12u spot on a different team. So another question the team she is currently on a really good coach (not manager) that does not have a kid on the team is going to move up as well. The other team I heard has a really good manager but the kids don't really get coached well. I am leaning toward the really good coach with unknown manager. What are your thoughts?
When is enough enough?
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Regarding choosing travel ball teams, softball is a small community so I would talk with the parents of prospective teams and ask around and get their thoughts. Also, don't hesitate to call the coaches of various teams and ask lots of questions. You can learn so much in a 10 minute call. For example, in August I talked with a half a dozen coaches before DD tried out for her current team. Very eye opening for me. Some teams had been together for years and were only looking for only 1 to 2 players, some were new teams moving up from Rec all stars, others were brand new teams with true tryouts and selection process. Also, ask your DDs hitting, pitching, conditioning coaches. They know a lot of teams and coaches and can give you valuable insight.
The things that I like about DDs current team is the head coach is paid (no kid on the team); all players attended tryouts and were selected on team needs; the organization is medium size and has been around for many years; the coach is intense, focused but very fair, knowledgeable and approachable.
The things that I like about DDs current team is the head coach is paid (no kid on the team); all players attended tryouts and were selected on team needs; the organization is medium size and has been around for many years; the coach is intense, focused but very fair, knowledgeable and approachable.
Has someone talked w/ him about the issues you brought up?
My dd has had a bit of success. But when she was 10 she was the worst hitter on her travel ball team (first year of travel ball). THE worst. Probably struck out half of her at bats... at least for the first half of the season. But by the end of the season she was actually a starter. Steady improvement. Glad she played for a coach who valued development over wins at 10U.
At 10U, you bat them all until the rules tell you that you can't. As for a change up on a 0-2 pitch...that is typical 10U mentality.
Yes from what I know four parents and a coach who doesn't have a kid on the team. The coach told me be nice if I talk to him he also said he tried to help out the manager but stoped after the second tourney said his job is to only coach not manage he is moving up to 12u and offered my daughter a spot. The reason he asked to move on is because the manager says one thing his actions show another and I think that is the point I was trying to make. The majority of the team feels the same way I know the girls that are staying in 10u the parents are saying they are going to leave except for the manager and his daughters two friends. Like I said I would feel crazier if I was the only one.
So he doesn't call an 0-2 pitch off the plate but on the corner to far outside he calls the next one down the middle. Not saying my DD can spot all the time just that is her game she is pretty accurate not very fast though she needs defense behind her. Her team has good defense so why would you pitch a girl who hasn't praticed all week? Oh because its his daughters friend and she asked to! Not even saying he should have pitched my DD but how about somebody who really want to and puts the time in to practice? Another parent said Daddyball day should be Saturday not Sunday.
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I would suggest you relax. I coach 10s. I have had a few parents that werent happy with me. They end getting mad and quitting. Then they find a new team and find out the grass isn't always greener on the other side. For example last year was our first year. We were super rough. I had a dad pull his daughter after half a year because he said the losing was to much for her to handle. She went to a slightly better team and sat the bench. This year that team moved up to 12s and she had to find a new team. He burnt this bridge and now drives a great distance for her to play. This year we are 13 and 5 and playing good ball. I told him to just trust the process. He didn't. It is a shame to because I really liked his daughter and our daughter are the same age. Both are 8s this year. Both were 7s playing 10s.
On the batting lineup. I told my parents the same thing about how I would bat everyone during pool play, but once we got to bracket play I will do what it takes to win. In 2 years only one kid didn't hit. Mine. What I have found is most of these young ladies lack confidence. Hard to build them up when you sit them. Two weekends ago we were in the championship game. It came down to my kid. I wasn't happy I hit her. She has 1 hit since she started playing. She struck out. We lost 2 to 1. She cried like I had never seen. But I seen a change the next day. A new fire. Last night we were at the cages. She has never been a fan of hitting cage balls. She would swing on time just a foot above the ball. Not last night. She was hitting the ball. Every time she did it would about knock her down but it didn't stop her. We may of lost a game, but I believe long term we just got better. That k and that feeling helped her grow up.
As for your coaches pitch selection. My pitchers are working on their change ups. 0 2 count I'm looking to call a change up. I don't always do it though. I have a couple pitchers that throw gas. If their control is a little iffy I will stick with the gas to get the out. If their is a runner on base and the pitcher isn't controlling the change im sticking with the gas. It pretty much comes down to trust. I'll call more change ups when I trust the results. With a new coach I would give it time. Once he trust the pitch he will call it more is my guess. It also sounds like the coach may be getting a lot of pressure from the parents. He may be playing it safe do to this pressure.
I feel your coaches pain when it comes to warm ups. I need an hour to warm up. If someone is late it messes up our flo. I will tell parents warmups start 1 hour before game time. If we have a couple girls show up late the next time it is 1 hour 15 minutes early. Your issue shouldn't be with the coach. It should be with the parents showing up late. Sounds to me the coach is trying to train the parents. I wouldn't let this issue bother you.
IMO I would stick it out. It isn't easy being a 10u coach. It takes a while to get everything running smooth. Your daughter is getting innings. The coach is trying. I would avoid the other parents that are complaining. At the end of the year if you are still unhappy try another team. Be careful of burning bridges. Your daughter is very young.
On the batting lineup. I told my parents the same thing about how I would bat everyone during pool play, but once we got to bracket play I will do what it takes to win. In 2 years only one kid didn't hit. Mine. What I have found is most of these young ladies lack confidence. Hard to build them up when you sit them. Two weekends ago we were in the championship game. It came down to my kid. I wasn't happy I hit her. She has 1 hit since she started playing. She struck out. We lost 2 to 1. She cried like I had never seen. But I seen a change the next day. A new fire. Last night we were at the cages. She has never been a fan of hitting cage balls. She would swing on time just a foot above the ball. Not last night. She was hitting the ball. Every time she did it would about knock her down but it didn't stop her. We may of lost a game, but I believe long term we just got better. That k and that feeling helped her grow up.
As for your coaches pitch selection. My pitchers are working on their change ups. 0 2 count I'm looking to call a change up. I don't always do it though. I have a couple pitchers that throw gas. If their control is a little iffy I will stick with the gas to get the out. If their is a runner on base and the pitcher isn't controlling the change im sticking with the gas. It pretty much comes down to trust. I'll call more change ups when I trust the results. With a new coach I would give it time. Once he trust the pitch he will call it more is my guess. It also sounds like the coach may be getting a lot of pressure from the parents. He may be playing it safe do to this pressure.
I feel your coaches pain when it comes to warm ups. I need an hour to warm up. If someone is late it messes up our flo. I will tell parents warmups start 1 hour before game time. If we have a couple girls show up late the next time it is 1 hour 15 minutes early. Your issue shouldn't be with the coach. It should be with the parents showing up late. Sounds to me the coach is trying to train the parents. I wouldn't let this issue bother you.
IMO I would stick it out. It isn't easy being a 10u coach. It takes a while to get everything running smooth. Your daughter is getting innings. The coach is trying. I would avoid the other parents that are complaining. At the end of the year if you are still unhappy try another team. Be careful of burning bridges. Your daughter is very young.
