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I would like to add a caveat to this for those of us with kids with developmental and/or medical issues:
Sometimes that athlete you think is uncoachable, disrespectful, or lazy is simply different, and may need a different coaching approach.
Just throwing that out there. My DD ran into a hitting coach this summer that just flat intimidated her (not through anything he did, she just reacted poorly to his style, and she does have issues we are working through with her doctor). He pulled me aside to tell me how she's uncoachable. That really made me sit down and try to be as objective as I could regarding my DD. I determined that he was both right and wrong, and that it was up to me to put her into a position to benefit from coaches who know more than I do.
It's definitely a process.
If you've coached for any length of time you'll find a player or two with whom you have trouble communicating/connecting with. I know I have. When I see that happening I will take the parent to the side and tell them I don't feel like I'm reaching or connecting with their child. Then I will quietly ask if there any special conditions I should know about or is there a "best" way for their child to learn. Some kids are visual, some physical, some need more confidence building while others need to be challenged. The trick is finding the path to take them on when teaching them.
I try to approach every player with the thought that I can and will find a way to teach them. I have never told a parent their child was uncoachable. I always want to feel as though I've done my best with every player I've worked with.