This will be my 5th year coaching the same girls. We went 15-0 and won our fall league last year. I get along so well with my assistant that i call him my co-head coach. Everything is great, except for one parent who is living in a parallel universe.
This person did not grow up playing baseball, and only knows what he thinks he knows about softball from a pitching coach he has taken his daughter for the last couple years. His daughter is almost 6' tall at 13 years old and throws mid 50's. His pitching coach thinks she has 7 different pitches, and the father has been trying to get her to paint the corners for a couple years now, even when she couldn't keep from walking girls. He insists on throwing a change up that is literally 32mph and inaccurate, compared to fastball which has been clocked at 56mph. This is a useless pitch and never works, yet because he thinks she has to learn to throw this pitch in game situations, he will call it on 3 ball counts, regardless of the situation. We let him call pitches because we are afraid he will pull his daughter from the team if he can't. We don't think it's fair to her to be pulled from her friends, and it's also going to mess up our season if we lose her. He isn't a coach because he didn't sign up through the league, is never at practices, his daughter misses all the time because of volleyball, yet he had the nerve to ask the other coach randomly if he could be in our team picture (he doesn't talk to me because he knows i don't care much for him). My assistant was surprised by the question and essentially said "it's just a picture, i don't really care who is in it". Might be true in a way but i definitely care if he's in it, and almost all of the girls and parents will also be either annoyed or confused by his presence.
I could go on and on about how ridiculous/obnoxious/disconnected/selfish this person is, but i'll save everyone from the sob story. Just looking for peoples' opinion on this situation. I want to pretty much tell him he isn't a coach, i don't want him at practices, and he doesn't need to be calling pitches, and he sure as heck doesn't have any reason to be in the team picture, knowing that he will probably throw a fit and try to pull his daughter from the team. At that point we aren't sure what will happen. it will be his daughter and wife likely wanting to stay on the team, and him wanting her to leave. If she did leave, we would lose any opportunity of competing in some tournaments we have already paid for (we are a true rec ball team that can beat travel ball teams), and will also ruin our chance of winning our rec league. My assistant would rather deal with his stupidity throughout the season rather than all the consequences of him pulling his daughter from the team. Looking for some outside opinions.