Gags - We have discussed some of the options you have outlined. In fact, we tried specifically with the "We want the catchers and pitchers to start working on calling their own game." Our first scrimmage comes up an dad is late because of work. Catcher is calling the game and doing fine. Dad shows up, watches no more than 5 pitches, and says "Why isn't she throwing more change-ups?" A third coach who isn't involved in this thread watched her warm up and said that in the 10 she threw in warmups, none even reached the plate. Of course dad replies with "That's why she needs to throw it more." and starts barking orders out to the mound. Not that there needs to be any more evidence, as his a-holery is well established, but the last example I will give is this. We asked the pitcher if she could throw some BP to the team to help get them used to faster pitching. Didn't want her to do anything but throw fastballs down the middle so the girls could work on timing. She complies, and he starts yelling at her for not throwing all of her pitches, or picking the corners. When I walked over and calmly explained what we were trying to do, he said he was trying to make sure she was ready for a state championship game, and if a batter was standing in front of her, she should never do anything but try and strike them out. This was last year, when all of the girls were in 6th grade.
As a bit of an update, Benny did call him and tell him he wouldn't be in the picture. He didn't take it great of course, but that part is done. He hasn't talked to us since, and his daughter conveniently missed practice last night because of a pitching lesson, even though our practice schedule hasn't changed for months. Our team pictures are tonight, so we will see what comes of that.