Mixed signals (maybe)????

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Feb 16, 2015
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DD received a call from her TB coach to tell her that a coach wanted her to call him. While on the call the coach tells her that he would like her to attend a home game if she can find time to go and watch. He said to let him know what game she could make it to. We started to check our schedule and the only home game weekend that she was without a doubt free for was today (3-25).


This was determined on Tuesday evening and the coach was messaged on Wednesday. This weekends series is the home opener for their conference play. So when Thursday rolled around and she didn't hear anything from her TB coach about going to the upcoming game. She attempted to give the coach a call but was unable to speak to him so she left a voice mail saying how she is excited about the upcoming game and to wish him and his team luck.


So today my family is sitting at the game as I type this and we really have know idea if the coach even knows she is there or not. I was expecting to hear something from the coach if not directly from him a relayed message from her TB coach, they have a decent relationship.

So my family is 6 hours away from home on a school and work night watching a game that I was hoping she would have interaction with the coach at but doesn't look like she will. They did not want to not show up to the game because she texted and left a message saying she was going. I know in the future a lot more planning needs to be had but this is the only game she could get to.


I would like to know how you all planned for stuff like this. How often did your child speak to a potential coach that is showing interest while in the recruiting cycle, did the frequency of the phone calls change during the season compared to off season? I know that the coaches are busy during the season but I still expected to hear something. Am I just over thinking this?
 
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Feb 16, 2015
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Tough to read this without paragraphs.

Sorry my grammar needs a lot of work. I just tried to break it up some. When I use my phone on here I just continue to type. Thank you for bringing it to my attention.

Update, I just got off of the phone with my wife. She said after the game they were standing in line to try and talk to the coach, when a member of the staff comes running out of the field house and approaches DD. She asked is your name Makenzie when DD replied yes. She said you and your family come with me.

She ended up getting the grand tour of the facility and had a very good sit down with the coach. She said everyone was extremely inviting and happy they saw her. So I guess in the end, it all worked out but I would still like to hear about how others handled visits and communication?


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obbay

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What year of graduation is your DD and is this DI, II or III? I was told that the NCAA rules can affect contact at games.
If you are on their campus and it's an "unofficial visit" I would think that's not a problem. But I don't know the rules!
 
Feb 16, 2015
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What year of graduation is your DD and is this DI, II or III? I was told that the NCAA rules can affect contact at games.
If you are on their campus and it's an "unofficial visit" I would think that's not a problem. But I don't know the rules!

She is a 2021.... I never heard anything pertaining to the bold but I am also unclear on all of the rules. In the end she was able to speak with them because she was on their campus.
 
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The new rule, if passes will prevent any talk about recruiting till the fall of Junior year, even if you are in their campus.
 

obbay

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The new rule, if passes will prevent any talk about recruiting till the fall of Junior year, even if you are in their campus.

I don't expect the rule change Would apply to D2 and D3, true?
(Then again, they probably wouldn't be getting any recruits talking to them before their Junior year anyway.)
Having two kids play ball thru HS and be interested in college ball, I don't know how you can honestly have a kid younger than a junior choose a college (and field of study). Not being critical- my kids were just not fortunate enough to spark interest early, otherwise I would've been all over it! Just that I haven't found HS girls to be very interested in colleges before their junior year (or even later)!
Best of luck-that's great that she's generating buzz already!
 
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No worries, I wasn't trying to give you a hard time, just wanted to let you know in case you didn't get many responses. I'd like to say that I appreciate your polite response, good luck with your DD!
 
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Congratulations and good luck through the recruiting process. Communication and trying to know what the coaches are thinking is the hardest part. Getting a tour by the coaches is obviously a great sign. Have your DD continue calling and writing the coach. Calling is a big one. They can’t return emails or voice mails, but they can answer the phone. Have her leave a massage that she’ll be calling at a certain time and date and it’ll improver her chances. She might not hear anything for a while, but keep letting them know she’s interested either way. Try not to read too much into anything or get too high or too low no matter what happens. It’s a long journey and she’s off to a great start.
 
Feb 16, 2015
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I don't expect the rule change Would apply to D2 and D3, true?
(Then again, they probably wouldn't be getting any recruits talking to them before their Junior year anyway.)
Having two kids play ball thru HS and be interested in college ball, I don't know how you can honestly have a kid younger than a junior choose a college (and field of study). Not being critical- my kids were just not fortunate enough to spark interest early, otherwise I would've been all over it! Just that I haven't found HS girls to be very interested in colleges before their junior year (or even later)!
Best of luck-that's great that she's generating buzz already!

I totally agree. The main goal for her when she goes on these visits is just to get a feel for the campus and the coaches, she is looking for a certain atmosphere. She doesn't know what field of study she may be interested in just yet, so looking at academics of the school seems pointless to us as of right now. All she knows as of now is that she wants to attend an out of state school :rolleyes:. She does well with her academics so if an out of state school doesn't workout she should be able to attended an in state school pretty much free of charge, if her academics continue on the certain path. Out of state tuition is so high that softball money will be a priority, if she doesn't change her mind about going out of state.
 

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