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Mar 4, 2015
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DD is committed to a school with a new coach. Coach has said verbals will stand.

DD has talked with the coach and they've exchanged texts, but sometimes texts go unreturned. We're talking fewer than 10 texts since season ended so it's not a barrage of them.

What should she make of that? Previous coach always responded. Is this just our insecurities? Is this just a young first-year coach swamped in her new job? Still trying to figure it out? Or a sign of a coach who is disinterested in DD?
 
Feb 17, 2015
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Depends, only the coach knows. It wouldn't be out of line to have your DD ask the coach where she stands and where she fits in in the new coach's plan.
 

JAD

Feb 20, 2012
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Georgia
DD went through this after the coaching staff she committed to were fired. If your DD has not signed an NLI there are no guarantees her verbal offer will be honored by the new staff. My suggestion would be to get in touch with the new staff asap and at least hear them say "Yes, we are still going to honor your DD's offer". It is still only a verbal, but at least you heard it straight from the new coaches mouth vs. "assuming" it was still valid. In the mean time, if you are not getting a warm and fuzzy feeling from the new staff, you may want to send out some feelers to see if there are other options in case your current plans fall though.
 
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Apr 12, 2016
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DD is committed to a school with a new coach. Coach has said verbals will stand.

DD has talked with the coach and they've exchanged texts, but sometimes texts go unreturned. We're talking fewer than 10 texts since season ended so it's not a barrage of them.

What should she make of that? Previous coach always responded. Is this just our insecurities? Is this just a young first-year coach swamped in her new job? Still trying to figure it out? Or a sign of a coach who is disinterested in DD?
How far away is the school? Has she met the new staff in person? If it is not too far away, she should tell the new staff she wants to make an unofficial visit and meet the new coaches.

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Mar 26, 2013
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DD is committed to a school with a new coach. Coach has said verbals will stand.

DD has talked with the coach and they've exchanged texts, but sometimes texts go unreturned. We're talking fewer than 10 texts since season ended so it's not a barrage of them.

What should she make of that? Previous coach always responded. Is this just our insecurities? Is this just a young first-year coach swamped in her new job? Still trying to figure it out? Or a sign of a coach who is disinterested in DD?
Was there athletic money in the verbal? If so, has the coach confirmed the amount/terms?

What kind of responses are you expecting? Not answering questions would be unsettling. Otherwise, could be a different style/attitude that doesn't see a need to respond to every message. What kind of response would suffice - a simple "k" or "thx" for acknowledgement or does it have to be something substantial?
 
Mar 4, 2015
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New England
How far away is the school? Has she met the new staff in person? If it is not too far away, she should tell the new staff she wants to make an unofficial visit and meet the new coaches.

It's about 3 hours. DD went to camp there recently and things were friendly. DD even talked with another recruit about being roommates. She talked with coach after and DD said she wanted to talk more later during the week. Coach said text her but DD didn't get response to the text yet.

Was there athletic money in the verbal? If so, has the coach confirmed the amount/terms?

What kind of responses are you expecting? Not answering questions would be unsettling. Otherwise, could be a different style/attitude that doesn't see a need to respond to every message. What kind of response would suffice - a simple "k" or "thx" for acknowledgement or does it have to be something substantial?

Just OK or thanks is fine, except last text was a question, like can I call you?

The new coach was on the previous staff, which I wanted to withhold since I don't want to inadvertently identify the school. There was money in the verbal and new coach knows that amount. However the new coach has not confirmed the amount still stands. We assume it does since verbals are being honored.

If anything thinks we should get to the bottom of this quickly, is it OK for parent to call? I believe in parents staying out of things but when it comes to money and offers, that may be different.
 
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Mar 26, 2013
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It's about 3 hours. DD went to camp there recently and things were friendly. DD even talked with another recruit about being roommates. She talked with coach after and DD said she wanted to talk more later during the week. Coach said text her but DD didn't get response to the text yet.

Just OK or thanks is fine, except last text was a question, like can I call you?

The new coach was on the previous staff, which I wanted to withhold since I don't want to inadvertently identify the school. There was money in the verbal and new coach knows that amount. However the new coach has not confirmed the amount still stands. We assume it does since verbals are being honored.
Those are some legitimate reasons to be concerned.

If anything thinks we should get to the bottom of this quickly, is it OK for parent to call? I believe in parents staying out of things but when it comes to money and offers, that may be different.
NO, a parent calling would likely be very bad. I know it's difficult, but your DD needs to deal with the coach without it obviously being driven by you. If money is an issue, she should know the parameters of your support.
 

JAD

Feb 20, 2012
8,231
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Georgia
It's about 3 hours. DD went to camp there recently and things were friendly. DD even talked with another recruit about being roommates. She talked with coach after and DD said she wanted to talk more later during the week. Coach said text her but DD didn't get response to the text yet.



Just OK or thanks is fine, except last text was a question, like can I call you?

The new coach was on the previous staff, which I wanted to withhold since I don't want to inadvertently identify the school. There was money in the verbal and new coach knows that amount. However the new coach has not confirmed the amount still stands. We assume it does since verbals are being honored.

If anything thinks we should get to the bottom of this quickly, is it OK for parent to call? I believe in parents staying out of things but when it comes to money and offers, that may be different.

Since DW and I are paying the difference between DDs total costs and scholarship money we were VERY involved any discussions involving money. If my DD was taking out student loans for the balance we may have taken a more hands off approach, but I would recommend being involved.
 
Mar 4, 2015
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New England
DD just told one encouraging thing. At the camp, one of the new assistants knew who she was and called her 'one of the commits'. But the advice to reach out and clear the air is a good one.
 

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