Definitly would let DD decide for herself! But I certainly hope she would opt to see her friends as planned!! There is more to life than softball. Season is basically over and this double header was unexpected. The team will survive without her, one way or another. It is healthy to have a life outside of softball. (For parents too!!)
What would DD do?
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DD loves being on the field so much that she would definitely be there to play. She'd also invite her friends she made plans with to the games and then they'd all go out together after the games. She's done it numerous times before.
If the weather turns nice for Christmas would the coach expect you to drop your plans last
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If it's a friendly with another team, then I would say pass. If the team is short one player, they can borrow from the other team or just play with 8. We once played a team called Elite 9, they only had 8 players!
We once made the mistake of scheduling an entire family lake getaway on an "off" weekend. A tourney appeared out of nowhere and we told coach sorry, but we made plans. I felt better when I found out the tourney got rained out after one game....at the Scrapyard turf fields!
We once made the mistake of scheduling an entire family lake getaway on an "off" weekend. A tourney appeared out of nowhere and we told coach sorry, but we made plans. I felt better when I found out the tourney got rained out after one game....at the Scrapyard turf fields!
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Friends come watch her play?!
Friends, neighbors , DD drew a crowd when she played. She is not all that but she enjoyed playing and you could see it. She is a hugger too, everyone gets a hug. I was not impressed when the baseball Team came over to watch her. When her game was over she went over to thier game and was cheering.
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Solution~ Friends come watch her play.
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Reach out to the coach. Sometimes they have to be reminded that the players are still kids. It’s an after season DH. Commitment is great but there’s so much these kids sacrifice for these teams that they forget what it’s like to hang out with friends off the softball field. There’s many different solutions to this whole scenario but at the end of the day they’re still kids and they will follow their gut or get burnt out.
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True different possible solutions.
Considering the dd is concerned about leaving the team short handed tells me she understands the greater good over her friends day. That in itself is pretty neat!
If the coach cant find a replacement, the dd imo has a good head on her shoulders and will make the right choice.
Considering the dd is concerned about leaving the team short handed tells me she understands the greater good over her friends day. That in itself is pretty neat!
If the coach cant find a replacement, the dd imo has a good head on her shoulders and will make the right choice.
She's playing 18, which means she's at least 16, right? Driving, getting ready for college, that kind of stuff.
Her call. I'd probably encourage her to skip the softball and start interacting with other friends because the season is over. Certainly if that's where she was leaning I wouldn't pressure her to play.
But, as I tried to explain to DS the other night, the difference between good and great is actually loving the game (or instrument or whatever) more than anything else, wanting to do it or practice or play rather than do any other activity. While my DD loves playing, it's never been her absolute top priority. We know girls to whom softball is.
Her call. I'd probably encourage her to skip the softball and start interacting with other friends because the season is over. Certainly if that's where she was leaning I wouldn't pressure her to play.
But, as I tried to explain to DS the other night, the difference between good and great is actually loving the game (or instrument or whatever) more than anything else, wanting to do it or practice or play rather than do any other activity. While my DD loves playing, it's never been her absolute top priority. We know girls to whom softball is.
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